[Ilikeceareal]

We started dating in high school when we were both 16 and now sophomores in college. I was quite angry person but she stuck it out with me until before college she broke up with me. Our relationship was off and on during first year and then I pleaded for her to be with me. I worked on my anger and other issues and told her it would be different. She got back with me and we stayed together for 7 months until just this past week she broke up.

I have been working 60 hours and came back home so some of the problems showed up again. She said she loves me so much and cares but feels like things will never change and to break up now so it's the best for both of us. I told her we both are immature and have problems but we can workout it out. She didn't want to accept it working on her own problems and said or well used different excuses. When I kept rejecting them or countering she just said this is my decision to make and I have to deal with it even if I regret it. If its meant to be we will find a way.

I feel she's just playing games with me. Being together for that long and just for her to randomly become cold and heartless to my feelings and breaking up just seems wrong. She told me no contact and if she texts me not to text her back and maybe in future we can be friends. I was supposed to go on vacation with her in 2 weeks.

What do I do and any advice?

Also, she acted this same way when she broke up and kept saying I want to be with you and then I don't. She played with me emotions so much it hurt. She says she's no longer happy and she doesn't know what she wants anymore.

[Wondergirl]

You have anger and other issues, you say, and it sounds like she doesn't think those will ever get fixed. What have you been doing to fix them? Counseling? Anger management classes?

If I were you, I'd work on my problems and go No Contact.

[Ilikeceareal]

You have anger and other issues, you say, and it sounds like she doesn't think those will ever get fixed. What have you been doing to fix them? Counseling? Anger management classes?

If I were you, I'd work on my problems and go No Contact.

I have worked on my problems of anger with counseling and started changing it right when she broke up before college. I felt like I got into the same routine when I came home for te summer in which we fought some. I just felt like she didn't treat me way I wanted and doesn't want to be in a relationship after being in college.

[Wondergirl]

I have worked on my problems of anger with counseling and started changing it right when she broke up before college. I felt like I got into the same routine when I came home for te summer in which we fought some.

So your problems are still there and you still treat her badly.

I just felt like she didn't treat me way I wanted

And what way did you want to be treated if you were not treating her very well?

She's probably meeting guys who don't have the heavy problems you do and are willing to treat her well

[Ilikeceareal]

So your problems are still there and you still treat her badly.

And what way did you want to be treated if you were not treating her very well?

She's probably meeting guys who don't have the heavy problems you do and are willing to treat her well

No my anger and issues are a lot better but I feel like we both have issues. She even said she knows I can treat her well and would get along on vacation but it would make it harder to break up. I am different than in high school.

She said she just wanted to focus on school and life and if god wanted us to be together we would be together.

[talaniman]

I understand your hurt and disappointment, but she is trying to let you down easy so I suggest you do as she says and leave her alone, no matter what. Yes it sucks when feelings change and one partner wants something different than the other, and its normal for things to change dramatically after high school and college begins.

The real challenge though is deal with getting dumped in a mature way and not a high school kid. That's why you leave her alone, so you can rebuild a life that you enjoy without her. I know breakups suck no matter the age. But it gets better eventually. We all have been there done that, so don't think you are the only one this has happened too.