[claireabell]

Why are children forced to see parents they don't know, even though my four year old has been going a year she still has no bond or anything with her father he pays nothing towards her and has not seen her from birth is it not her right to who she wants to see or not see

[JudyKayTee]

No, it's not her right. She's 4 years old. There is very little she can decide for herself due to her age.

You have filed for support and either been denied or he is ignoring the support order?

What does the Court order say about visitation?

Do you "bad mouth" the father to the child?

Why are the father and child not bonding? The average 4 year old "bonds" with an adult who pays attention to her, buys her presents, is fun to be with.

Other than that this is a discussion question. The Courts believe that an underage person (usually 18) is not emotionally and/or mentally capable of making life-altering decisions. The Court will, of course, listen to a child's feelings and thoughts about visiting but that does little to change what the Judge feels is in the best interest of the child.

If the father is unfit, did you attempt to prove that at the Court Hearing for support/visitation?

EDIT: This is a legal question, and I have asked that it be moved. You say the father has not seen her. You say he's had visitation for a year. Which is it?

[ScottGem]

No its not, frankly. The father's rights supersede hers in this instance. As a child, especially a 4 yr old, she does not have the maturity to make this decision on her own.

Your post is confusing though. First you say "she has been going a year", then you say he has "not seen her from birth".

As for not paying anything, did you go to court for child support?

If she is not bonding, maybe you should find out why? Maybe it is your negative attitude towards the father. Maybe something else. But as long as a court order exists giving him visitation, you have to make her available for visitation.

Edit: Judy and I seemed to have composed very similar responses at the same time. I assume we both started composing our responses before the other posted. I have moved this to the appropriate forum.

[JudyKayTee]

I was amused that we pretty much paraphrased each other! Yes, same time, same place, same advice.

[claireabell]

She has been going a year my ex doesn't buy her anything at all I provide clothing and she brings them home after he hasn't seen her from birth till June last year and as for payments I have tried court and Csa r still chasing him as he refuses to pay

[ScottGem]

Does he have a job? Visitation and support are generally kept separately.

[claireabell]

He has a job n is self employed

[ScottGem]

If he has a salaried job, his salary can be garnished. If he is self employed it gets much harder, maybe his tax return can be attached. Or they can jail him for contempt of court (whihc would also help with your visitation issues). You really need to press CSA to help you collect.