[badlyf14]

I'm a 15 year old girl. I'm not outspoken but not very shy either. All my friends have/have had bfs. I am the kind of person who isn't very talkative but once comfy with someone or even if I don't feel awkward I still talk quite some. My guy classmates do talk to me. I talk to all my boy classmates some less, some more.

The last I got asked out was about 2 years ago by a 19 year old (at that time). I barely dated him for a very short time. Since then nobodys asked me out. I wonder why, is something wrong with me? My attitude?

I can't think of an explanation and I feel really depressed because of it sometimes. Help!

[teacherjenn4]

You were 13 and dated a 19 year old? Did your parents approve?

[badlyf14]

Actually, when he asked me out I denied but he kept pursuing me till I said yes. Then two weeks later I broke up with him because I had only agreed under pressure and didn't really like him. I was in boarding at that time and no, I didn't tell them.

[talaniman]

Nothing wrong with you at all as most 15 year olds don't get asked out, but of course all you see are the ones with boyfriends. You probably don't even notice the shy guys or girls who aren't dating either.

As you learn to cultivate a relationship with guys that goes beyond just casual classmates, exchange numbers, and actually hangout, you will find more options and opportunities to date.

Generally it starts with good friends. Got any guys who you consider best friends with?

[badlyf14]

Dear talaniman,
Yeah, only few and they both have gfs.. Its all right though it doesn't really bother me so much. Only when I'm down, its one of the things that comes to mind.. Thanks for your advice :D

[Wondergirl]

Teens your age should be hanging out in groups and go on chaperoned trips to amusement parks, state parks, having gym nights or board game nights, pizza parties, and all sorts of adventures. You get to know each other, see whom you get along with and don't like much, and the breaking off into couples and single dating begins around 16 and 17. Join youth groups through a church, the Y, the public library, your own school (after-school organizations). Public libraries are especially pursuing teens to become part of reading groups, game groups, and discussion/focus groups.

[badlyf14]

Teens your age should be hanging out in groups and go on chaperoned trips to amusement parks, state parks, having gym nights or board game nights, pizza parties, and all sorts of adventures. You get to know each other, see whom you get along with and don't like much, and the breaking off into couples and single dating begins around 16 and 17. Join youth groups through a church, the Y, the public library, your own school (after-school organizations). Public libraries are especially pursuing teens to become part of reading groups, game groups, and discussion/focus groups.

Thanks for your advice :)

[Wondergirl]

Thanks for your advice :)

Now, young lady, what are you going to do about it??

[patnatwilla]

The reason guys don't ask you out is because you're too shy. We like girls who are fun and energetic. You need to be more outgoing.