[kelleymack]

Hey all -

I am a happily married 33 year old woman - been with hubby for 395738 years - I love sex, love being frisky - and love giving wild slippery sloppy BJ's - Porn Star style!

I also love the sweet romantic love making as well! (Combo of the two in a sex life is truly EPIC!)

The problem that I have and am a bit concerned about is the way I HATE - I MEAN HATE - to be gone down on!! UUUUGGGGHHH! I can't stand it - In fact I think I would rather stick a fork in my eye than to receive oral.

In the chats with my close girl friends - I have stunned some of them with this announcement of mine. They insist that "hubby must be doing something very wrong". I have watched plenty -o- porn in my day - and I can honestly say that he is doing exactly what they are all doing.

Hubby is the only man that I have ever been with sexually (as I am the only woman he as ever been with as well) So I don't have other experiences to compare hubby's oral performance's to...

I can just honestly say that the sensation of a slippery tongue having full rein to flick and flutter down there feels so utterly gross - And I would just rather get on with getting DOWN!

I feel bad for hubby though - He loves doing it - And I know that what he is doing has to be amazing - because I see porn stars having earth shattering orgasms from guys who are doing to them what my guy is doing to me...

Is there any other woman on this entire planet who hates this like how I do??

UUGHHGGH I have the heebie jeeebies now just from talking about it!

[joypulv]

Nothing's wrong with you. What happened to personal preference?

[JudyKayTee]

This is too much info for me - I would have been just as informed by "I don't enjoy receiving oral sex." I never know what is posted because the OP wants/needs to read it, what is informative, what is for shock value.

I have no idea how other women feel. I am well aware some like anal, some do not. I'm sure oral and just about anything else is the same thing. This is a "freedom of choice" country.

If you'd rather "stick a fork in your eye" than receive oral, your husband has to realize that. If he keeps pressuring you, insists on performing oral sex, the sex act isn't the problem.

Can't you just say no and stick to "slippy sloppy BJ's - Porn Star style!"

(I have the heebie jeebies from reading this - "the sensation of a slippery tongue having full rein to flick and flutter down there ..." certainly puts oral sex in a whole new light.)

[joypulv]

(I slippery slided right over most of it, and thought I saw something about Sloppy Joes - yep, TMI for me too.)
I don't condemn or judge though. I used to wonder during my sexually active years why no one ever addressed the subject of how tight or loose a woman's vagina might be, not in terms of a man's opinion, but some real way to measure (without squeezing).

[kelleymack]

Ahhh! I'm sorry - I didn't mean to offend anyone, I was just trying to be funny!

My bad, I apologize... :(

I liked the first poster's response with "What ever happened to personal preference?"

That's exactly right - And it's what I should have said when my friends were insisting that something was either incredibly wrong with what hubby was doing - or that something was incredibly wrong with my not liking it...

(I apologize again for the TMI - Thanks for your replies! )

[Cat1864]

I feel bad for hubby though - He loves doing it - And I know that what he is doing has to be amazing - because I see porn stars having earth shattering orgasms from guys who are doing to them what my guy is doing to me...

You do realize porn stars are acting, don't you? Porn is great for giving ideas, but do not compare what you and your husband do to what the script tells the actors to do and how to react.

If you did have more experience with other men, comparing your husband's performance with someone else's wouldn't be fair to either of them.

Joy and Judy have said about all there is to say. I will add stop pressuring yourself to enjoy a sex act you aren't comfortable with.

Just something to think about: I will also say that if your husband is mimicking what he has seen in porn movies, his technique may not be the best way to pleasure you. It might be something to discuss with your husband if you want to see if there might be a compromise.

Sex in a committed long-term relationship is as much about communicating as it is the acts. Talking about 'likes', 'dislikes' and 'maybe tries' can help keep a couple from letting their sex life stagnate.

If you are both happy and satisfied, does it matter what other people think?