[Mamaws3Angels]

HELLO, I AM NEW BUT I KNOW ALL OF YOU ARE NOT ATTORNEYS, I JUST NEED TO RANT AND MAYBE SOMEONE WHO IS SANE WILL HAVE SOME HELPFUL ADVICE.:confused:

The daughter my ex and I raised from age 9, in 1984, now has 3 children, ages 5, 7, and 11, she is bi-polar, doesn't always take her medicine. Her children were in foster care for 19 months from Oct. 2004 to April , 2006, due to her abusive boyfriend and BOTH abusing drugs/alcohol. She even stayed with this creep 6 months after her kids were taken away! She finally left when she feared for her life. She went to rehab and co-dependency counseling, but she musta had a stroke, since then, 'cause she doesn't remember a thing about what she learned, dumber than a box of rocks! She married a guy she had only known for a month in Sept. 2006, a rebound of the guy she was living with before the kids came back. She made him leave when he stole her food stamp card, sold the total amount $300, and bought cocaine. The other side of her bed doesn't get cold before another man moves in, hence the husband she only knew for a month! The five year old girl has called 3 men "daddy." It sucks!
This guy is bi-polar also, she tells me, but I also believe he is a schizophrenic. She has heard voices and has a schizoid affect. What a match! He leaves and comes back; leaves and comes back, sometimes she begs him to come back and one time she went chasing him and forgot she had 3 kids at home and left them alone!! The 2 oldest, boys , were supposed to have gone to school, but she was too distraught to get them ready. The oldest called me and I was there in 5 minutes to get them. Of course they were dirty and hungry. I have asked her to let me have custody of them and for her to do what she wants and if she gets her head on straight, I will give them back to her. The very important part of keeping them is they bring in approx. $2600/month, so neither she nor her husband have to work. But she still barely makes ends meet. I will die of a heart attack if they get taken away again, I will grieve myself to death. They are the only reason I am still alive! Now the oldest grandson got caught smoking what my daughter believes was crystal meth because she took him to the E. R. and he tested high for meth, but he is ADHD and takes meth for that. Any way, he is in a rehab program set up by the police department. He tells his Mom he did it to get back at her for all she did to them. He has a love/hate relationship with her. They love it when there is no man in her life and they all sleep together and love on her, but the minute a man comes on the scene, she distances herself from them and they from her, they know the routine like I do. I get kicked to the curb if the new b/f doesn't like me. Her husband, for instance, I found out all his lies, so of course he hates me. He says he was in Desert Storm, got shot in abdomen and bullet is lodged in his spine. Well, he has never even been in the armed services! So no Desert Storm and no wound from war. The place on his abdomen looks more like a knife wound and I fully understand somebody doing it to him, I would myself if I could get away with it!! He yells at me and tells me to get off his property (my daughter pays the rent) he then calls 911, the police come, make me leave, with the grandbabies and me crying and my daughter just standing there with her thumb up her ***. Then she comes over later, and it's a secret, we can't tell her hubby. So me and her and the kids go to the park and talk. Her oldest son is so smart, he knows her as well as I do. He told her he wants a normal family and peace!
I know all 3 of them would be happy to live with me, even if it is for a while or a long time. Her oldest son told her he doesn't like her husband saying g. d. and that he will go to hell for it and he doesn't like the way he cusses and talks mean to his Mom. I used to take them to church with me and the oldest was Baptized, but she doesn't take them and I don't go because of my arthritis, but I would if she would let me take them with me! I have drawn up papers to file on my own to get the kids because she left them alone and the oldest is escalating in his anger for her, the second oldest has a chronic immune illness and the her and her husband smoke in front of him and her house is always a pig sty, the girl never has her beautiful hair combed and very rarely gets bathed, and because of her abusive, verbally, husband. I am the oldest of 7 and we had it tough sometimes but we were loved and fed and kept clean. I don't get it and I never will. I couldn't have children, but she could have one every time she lays down, at least her tubes are tied, she was pregnant 5 times. One miscarriage and one therapeutic abortion for birth defects. She did and does grieve over that baby. She just informed me that her husband is going to adopt her daughter (the birth dad has never been in her life). Ain't that special? I can see him riding off into the sunset, laughing his off, because she didn't have the sense to keep her daughter. I mean, if he adopts her and then finds reason enough to take her when he leaves, he could molest her or sell her or anything. My stupid daughter. Is she stupid or mentally ill or both?
And believe me, I have prayed so much I can't sleep or hardly eat. I act like a zombie.
I need feedback,, what would you do? Other than go crazy and I am half way there! Thanks, Glenna

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Glenna, I so feel for you! Get those kids away from your daughter and her partner as soon as you can. I don't think they can offer a decent environment or upbringing for them, and I hate to say this but it sounds like they never will. Good luck !