[kaylafaye20]

Me and my boyfriend are in a long distance relationship. He is away in the military. We have been together off and on for 6 months. I've broken up with him every time. We finally decided to try to make things work after telling each other how we really felt after about 2 weeks of not talking.

Anyway, we got in a pretty big fight yesterday because he said he would call me and he never did. Never texted either. Now I haven't heard from him all day and I've texted him telling him I'm sorry for being selfish. But he is completely giving me the silent treatment! Even ignored 2 of my calls. I don't know what to do. I'm obsessing over the situation and I have to stop this. My mind and heart can't take it.

Everyone is telling me to ignore him and he will come back but I feel like that would be stupid of me. Like I shouldn't let my pride get in the way. What do I do?

[Comeandgetme12]

Well he is in the military so it may be hard to always make phone calls. When you date someone in the military you just have to accept its not going to always be all about you. Plus having a big fight just over not calling you sounds juvenile. Don't let your pride get in the way, tell him your sorry. If he doesn't come back it maybe because he feels he can't please you any more or just is too hurt. I know you want contact at least by phone if you can't see your man, but if it is that bad to where it starts a fight then perhaps you should find a local guy. I wouldn't myself like a long distance relationship ( so I'm not throwing you under the bus). I mean if he went over a week and did that a lot then I would have suspicion, other wise, it's just part of the military deal.

[Fr_Chuck]

Yes, it may be because of his work, his phone got damaged, or other issues, he could be sick in the hospital, you don't know.

But bad signs, "I have broken up" so it is OK for you to break up, but not him??
It sounds like a very rocky relationship at best, long distance, how long did you know each other in person before long distance happened

[Oliver2011]

Or he is just dang tired of all the drama. At some point he is going to weigh which thing he likes better - a relationship with you OR a drama free life. I have always strived for a drama free life so if it was me I know which I would choose.

[talaniman]

In time you will let this go and be glad because a 6 month long distance relationship with arguing, fighting and break ups will never work for you.

Until you do let it go, your heart and mind will never heal and accept that its over, and that its for the best.