[hamburgee]

Okay, thanks for coming. I am a 11 year old girl and I have a good life. But, one thing always steps in my way. My parents are divorced and I'm the one whose stuck in the middle. My mum and dad both already have partners and live in different places/city's/towns. My dad is really rich, and hides a lot of money from my mum, which he isn't supposed to do obviously. My dad does keep a lot of secrets from my mum too, which sometimes I can't resist telling her, since I love her more than my dad. What should I do? Should I just wait, and it will sort itself out? Or should I say something?

[tickle]

One of life's lessons is keeping secrets to yourself and if you tell your mom your dad's, that isn't showing any respect for him.

What do you want to say? They are divorced, they each have partners and have moved on. So do nothing, it is what it is.

[smkanand]

Your parents are adults. They know what they are doing. You should leave it on them. Focus on studies. Give the support to your mom. Respect your dad. They are divorced so there is chance of them to be together. Don't stress yourself.

[mariecarol108]

I was in a similar situation when I was younger, but I lived with my mum in spain and only got too see my dad in england three times a year, they both kept secrets from each-other, and I found out the hard way to just let them get on with it, they are adults, anything you do will not change what has happened, you will be okay, as you get older you get more independent and you will learn that everyone has secrets, and it's better to just let them get on with it, and it's better for yourself if you don't get involved! Focus on your school work, this is what I did and I am now at university, living my own independent life, studying what I love, with a healthy relationship with both parents!

[Jake2008]

You are in a tough situation. At only age 11, you've had to cope with your parents splitting, then two step-parents now in the picture. You're back and forth between two houses, and two families. That alone is difficult for a kid to deal with.

I don't know how you came across financial information as you've described, that you think puts your mother at a disadvantage. If you can, avoid involving yourself in their financial matters. As it's been said here, that is their business, and not yours. Try to avoid feeling you must make a decision to inform your mother of what you come across, as that information only furthers you in matters you should have nothing to do with.

While you feel loyalty to both parents, their role in your life does not involve finances, except to make sure you are well taken care of, and you've said as much.

Don't take any information you shouldn't have, or information that one parent may say against the other, to either home. Don't get caught in the middle because you are just too young, and shouldn't be put in that position in the first place.

Best of luck to you.

[JudyKayTee]

"your parents are adults. they know what they are doing. you should leave it on them. focus on studies. give the support to your mom. respect your dad. they are divorced so there is chance of them to be together. don't stress yourself."

I see NO chance of these parents getting back together. You are giving this child false hope.

When you carry tales from one parent to the other you risk losing the trust of both of them. It is truly not your concern.

It is unfortunate that you love one parent more than the other. Is that why you carry "stories" to your mother about your father? To protect her? To punish him? Something else?

Divorce is hard on kids, no question. You are forced to live in two worlds through no fault of your own.