[ciciban13]

Can someone explain to me please why a cheater would cheat on someone that loved him very much and gave him the world?

I was real with him and supported him on every step even when he decided to move hour away to be with his mom after step dad died. Kept contact went on vacation etc. On my birthday in Vegas with my ex and bunch of friends found out that he was cheating on me when his boyfriend called me and said to tell him it’s over and that they have dated for 8 months etc. My ex at that time was trying to say it’s a person that always wanted him blah blah and then it’s his brothers friend etc. it was a one time thing and nothing happened he is a liar, and then his boyfriend now sends me a picture of them kissing in bed. After that he cried and apologized and said he wanted to make this happen.

Week later he tells me it’s over he needs to move on and work on his life because he doesn’t know what happened. I cried over him begged him to change his mind and that I believe in second chances and nothing. Three days later I call his phone and his boyfriend answers and says that they never broke up and that he knows that my ex broke up with me etc. I was livid. I told him Bunch of stuff that I apologized later because it was mean but it was all I could do. I lost it. Month apart he kept sending me small texts that he misses me etc. and all nice and then month later asked me for second chance gave me his word that he will work on it and promised me stuff. I asked if he is in love with the person he cheated and he said NO. Hour later I get a text from His boyfriend now that said “We broke up and wish you guys the best”. I never replied. I asked my ex what it was about and he said. Oh he is just mad that we are back together talking ignore him... block his number.

Well week after that I went to see him for a day he acted distant and cold and I asked him and he was like no nothing is wrong I just don't want to get all lovey dovey because there is a distance between us and he wants to take it slow so that what happens doesn't happen again and that the reason why he broke up with me and looked for another person is because I didn't give him attention. Well he moved away from me. And yes I talked every day. Sent him texts etc, all I can do. Then he tells me that now that he asked me back for second chance that I am just being too nice to him and it looks fake because it could be that I want him only because I am afraid to be alone etc. I told him it’s not but I am realizing that maybe I didn't give you attention and so I don't want to make the same mistake twice. Well he only said I miss you once in like two weeks and avoids saying I love. He said maybe I love you couple times and that’s it.

Well week ago I texted him in the morning because I knew he is up and he didn't text me and I said good morning and his boyfriend texts me and says give it up he is lying next to me. I called him he turned his phone off. Finally I convinced his boyfriend to tell him to talk to me to let me know why he asked me for second chance and said I love you first and did all the small talk and promised to come down to my city in a week to see me and even wanted to come down couple days prior that to see me. Well my ex only could say sorry I guess I am selfish. I asked how long has this been going on and he said it never stopped even when we were together in the same city for 2.5 years. I am just heart broken and lost and I still love him. I said some harsh words to him that I kind of regret now and stuff but he deserved it because he didn't have the balls to tell me in person and look me in the eyes that he is still with other guy while he gave me his word that the wants me. It’s just hurtful that someone that said to me that he loved me and I am his prince and I am the best thing that happened to him could hurt me so bad and ignore me and not give me enough respect to talk to me. I just want to know why people do those things? Just heartbroken, devastated.

[talaniman]

They do it because we let them. That's what happens when we follow our hearts instead of protect it, and give it to the wrong person. You ignored the warning signs. By rule, cheaters are liars.

[Homegirl 50]

They do it because we believe a lie even when we know it's a lie. They want to have their cake and eat it to so they string you along so they can continue to do it.
You knew the guy was a liar yet you continued to take him back. Why would he be any different?

[ciciban13]

They do it because we believe a lie even when we know it's a lie. They want to have their cake and eat it to so they string you along so they can continue to do it.
You knew the guy was a liar yet you continued to take him back. Why would he be any different?

I thought maybe after he cried to me and apologized and said I love you etc that he made a mistake and wanted me back and only me.. I guess I still love him

[Homegirl 50]

You need to love yourself more and leave this guy alone.