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    lollipops987654 Posts: 5, Reputation: 1
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    May 4, 2013, 05:32 PM
    Why is my dad sooo mean to me?
    Why is my dad sooo mean to me? He is always calling me stupid and a retard and mental. I know he is not joking. I'm always afraid he will hit me. Like today I was walking with him behind me and I bumbed in to a fence (its wire so it bends easily) and it bent and then he yelled at me and told me that I'm a stupid jack*** that needs to watch where I'm going. I went inside and he told my mom what happened and called me names again and she looked mad at him. Then I ran to my room and cried and my mom yelled to me to come back then my dad said who cares let her cry!

    Why does he do this to me? He does it all the time and my mom does nothing to stop it. It happneds to my 15 year old sis too. She already has emotional issues and he makes it worst. She will tell me sometimes she wants to kill herself and I'm afraid she might. What do I do? Does he hate me? If not then why does he do it?
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    May 4, 2013, 05:47 PM
    It sounds like he doesn't hate only you. Your sister and mom get the brunt of his bad moods/behavior too.

    Here's a little secret for you: It isn't the rest of the world he hates. It is himself he hates, and he takes it out on everyone else, whoever is handy. Now, tell me why that might be. Did he have a terrible childhood or bad time in his life?
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    May 4, 2013, 05:51 PM
    No, not really. I think he just hates people. Every time we have a family gathering he does not go or he does go but gets mad when people talk to him.
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    May 4, 2013, 05:53 PM
    If you are walking, why did you bump into fence to start with, was he worried you could hurt yourself? Get clothes dirty.
    Do you have a walking or balance issue, was road way bad ?

    Some people yell, they do not know better,

    "HIT YOU" has he ever hit you,
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    May 4, 2013, 05:54 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by lollipops987654 View Post
    no, not really. i think he just hates people. every time we have a family gathering he does not go or he does go but gets mad when people talk to him.
    Like I said... there is something lurking inside him, some baggage he is carrying around, HIS problem. You don't "hate people" for no reason.
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    May 5, 2013, 04:56 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck View Post
    if you are walking, why did you bump into fence to start with, was he worried you could hurt yourself? get clothes dirty.
    do you have a walking or balance issue, was road way bad ?

    some people yell, they do not know better,

    "HIT YOU" has he ever hit you, ?
    We don't live near a road,I would not have gotten hurt, and it was clean. I don't have a walking or balance issue. And I bumbed into it because my head was turned the other way because he was talking to me. No, never got hit.
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    May 5, 2013, 05:58 PM
    Well, sometimes my dad does that to me too :( sometimes I just cry in the corner of the bathroom for hours, yes.. I have suicidal thoughts too. Just try to avoid your dad
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    May 5, 2013, 06:19 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by springfall79 View Post
    well, sometimes my dad does that to me too :( sometimes I just cry in the corner of the bathroom for hours, yes.. I have suicidal thoughts too. Just try to avoid your dad
    I can't advoid him. He would get mad. I sometimes also go and cry. I can't control it.
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    May 5, 2013, 06:32 PM
    If he treats everyone bad and is mean to everyone then don't take it personal and don't let him get you down. I know that's not easy but ask your mom how she handles it. Maybe she knows why he is like he is.
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    May 5, 2013, 06:34 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    If he treats everyone bad and is mean to everyone then don't take it personal and don't let him get you down. I know that's not easy but ask your mom how she handles it. Maybe she knows why he is like he is.
    thanks this really helped

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