[steph1105]

My boyfriend would rather watch porn than have sex with me when I have tried to talk to him about it he gets mad and says that sex is all I think about if that was true then I would ask for sex ever night what can I do to get him to want me again?

[Wondergirl]

Go to the other extreme and never ask for sex -- meaning don't whine about it or cry or beg or even be romantic. Just go through your day and night like he's your brother. Be friendly but nothing sexual or romantic and not even hugging or kissing or caressing.

Let me know how long it takes for him to wake up and notice you.

[steph1105]

I have tried that already. It doesn't faze him at all. He is constantly saying that he is waiting for me to initiate sex but the few times I do he says that sex is all I think about

[steph1105]

I have tried that already. It doesnt faze him at all. He is constantly saying that he is waiting for me to initiate sex but the few times i do he says that sex is all i think about

I've tried that already it doesn't faze him at all the few times I've tried saying something to he says that he is waiting for me to initiate sex but when I try he just says that sex is all I think about

[steph1105]

I think its more than just regular old porn though we have watched porn together. The times that he doesn't want to have sex with me instead he would rather watch porn he turns the phone away so I can't see what he is looking at when I sit next to him. So I have tried to be slick and get up come around his other side he turns away again so I can't see what he is looking at. Then after sitting next to him in silence for a good hour he will all of a sudden start getting defensive. And say stuff like are you going be stuck up my butt all night. He tries to make me feel bad. Because I have no confidence in myself as a woman. He says that because I am clingy and needed its all my fault. Then he starts on about how he is tired of being the only one that intiates sex. And I keep trying to tell him that I would have no problem with initiating it but what does he expect when he spends hours on his mobile phone looking at porn and straight up ignoring me. All he is doing is making me feel ugly and fat and unattractive. I keep telling him to say he loves or to say that he thinks I'm beautiful. Ive asked him several times to give me some kind of hint that he wants me so that I can intiate the sex without the constant fear of rejection. Please help me I just don't know what to do. Why is he hiding what he is looking at from me? How can I initiate sex without being rejected? How can I make him understand how I feel?