[Oldie37]

I am 37 yrs old woman... I've been in relationship for over 15yrs and I have no sex drive, I would like to be sexually active for my husband sake but I can't get into it. Is there anything j can take to boost it?

[CravenMorhead]

That is a hard one. A lot of arousal happens in the mind and a lot before hand. How is the intimacy in your relationship? The non-sex intimacy? Kissing, touching, and the like. Not the day to day maintenance of the relationship. Does it seem like the early years or just room-mates that share a bed?

As well, have you been to the doctor recently? Are your hormone levels normal? Physically are you healthy? What is your partner's libido like? His health? Just want to get an idea of the relationship because there could be many reasons your libido is low and more informations allows us to narrow it down.

[Cat1864]

There can be many reasons for a lowered libido.

One of the first reasons is physical or medical issues. They range from hormonal imbalance to medication side-effects. A visit to your doctor could help rule those out or in. If in, then you be able get help with the cause. If you are on any medications, you might also check with your pharmacist about drug interactions (between drugs and between foods/drinks/supplements.)

Stress is another main cause of limitations. Even minor things can have a major affect. Do you get time to yourself to unwind and let any stress build-up dissipate? Are you feeling pressured or like it is 'expected'? Are you wanting to get your sex drive back for yourself?

Are you getting enough non-sexual affection and intimacy? Do you and your husband spend time having fun together or does it feel like the only time you interact is for household business or sex?

Have you been ignoring or shutting down your libido due to thoughts of arousal coming at an inappropriate time such as when children, other family members, etc. are around or the timing is 'off'? We can train ourselves to push our sexual needs to the back of our minds and it can take some active retraining to bring them back to the forefront.

Have you been happy with your sex life until you realized your libido was lacking or have there been things you wish were a little different? Does your sex life need a bit of a spark to rekindle your interest?

These are just a few of the possibilities. If you give us more information (non-identifying, of course), we can help you narrow down the list.