[Justkay]

My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year. Which is the longest amount of time he's been in a relationship, we've meet each others family's friends everything and up until a few days ago I would say I trusted him more then I've ever trusted anyone else.

So here's my problem the other night I was texting him and I got a kik message saying that they found a user I might know it it just so happened to be my boyfriend, but it wasn't the kik account I knew of and it was under a different screen name so I looked up the screen name and it lead me to a dating website. At that very moment I called him yelled screamed and broke up with him.

A few hours later he came over I guess he figured I calmed down then and explained to me that he made that 6 months ago when we where fighting a lot and he didn't think we where going to last. He swore on his own life that he backed down from it an never used the dating profile or the Kik and deleted it right in front of me. Before this I never was given a reason he was cheating, never had a gut feeling he was or even a second thought.

But now my mind is constantly wondering what he's doing if he's cheating . How do I get over these feelings everyone of my friends have told me along with family that he wouldn't do that, but sense he thought about it I am allowing it to play with my mind.

[Fr_Chuck]

Most boyfriends will think about cheating, if not all of them at some point,
Not all will actually look or plan on it, If he did not cheat, he did not cheat,

[joypulv]

Here's the deal: We ALL think about doing all sorts of things. You do too. Steal something? Kill somebody? Punch someone in the face? Run off to Timbucktoo? Make love to some heartthrob in a movie? And WERE you fighting a lot back then? Did you think you were going to last?

Second: Do you want to keep him or don't you care? Because if you let doubt and jealousy and mistrust poison your mind, you will lose him. He did absolutely nothing to deserve those 3 destructive emotions. So you have a choice to make - what's it going to be?

[talaniman]

You just need time to let it go and not dwell on it. He didn't think you would last, and was angry at the arguing is my take on it. Do you always attack him with anger when you are mad at him?