[banu123]

I'm ABC. My age is 23 and I'm a Brahmin girl. I'm in love with a boy since 4 years who is 26 years Naidu guy and settled in well position. His parents are OK with our marriage but my parents are not accepting at all. Even they are having positive opinion on my love they are scared about society and relatives but not thinking about my happiness. If I force them to accept my love they will accept but I don't want my parents to feel bad about my mentality and character. Tell me to convince them in a non huring way please.

[talaniman]

I think a better way to approach this is to make the marriage work. I doubt they have a change of feelings and accepting the marriage despite the fears is a good sign Don't go overboard with convincing them and be grateful they are willing to accept this marriage.

Time and events will allay their fears.

[Fr_Chuck]

You live in a society and culture where arrange marriages are common and love and even happiness is not considered a requirement for marriage, duty and honor are more important.

Position and class and religion mean more than most anything else.

Only your family can tell you how and what they will feel or accept

[smkanand]

naidu and brahmin, I don't think there should be much problem. Try to convince your family, you both belong to same dharma and similar culture, there are always some difference in families and people but you will blend with his family. And I guess he will also. You guys talk to each other about your values and customs and respect them. Get married, your parents will understand sooner or later.