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sar123 · Mar 20, 2007, 08:29 PM

Hi, I haven't had sex yet, but I can't have an orgasm when my bf/any other boyfriend of mine fingers me or or does oral sex, sometimes its even hard to become aroused during sexual activity. I have had an orgasm before, but just by a vibrator on my clitoris, not anywhere else.
Is there something wrong with me? Does anybody else have this problem? Or does anybody have any tips?

p.s. please be serious with your answers, this took a lot of courage.

missk · Mar 20, 2007, 09:35 PM

I just think you need to relax and understand that not everybody has an orgasm every time or to everything. I think the older you get and the more you understand your body the easier it will be to have an orgasm. My opinion. I don't think there is anything wrong with you. Also, it is a whole different level when and if you ever have sex.

missk · Mar 20, 2007, 09:41 PM

I should not have said the older you get, but yet the more experience you have.

EnglishRose · Mar 21, 2007, 08:33 AM

I suggest you practice alone. Once you know how it works for you, you will be able to show him. Relax and enjoy it

ErinCourtney13 · Nov 30, 2008, 07:29 PM

It is different when you actually have sex. And for some women, they never have an orgasm during sex anyway. You just have to find out what works for you. Try different things on your own and/or with him and see what works.

tfrog · Nov 30, 2008, 08:15 PM

Word out on the street is that majority of the women can't orgasm anyway.
You've just joined the masses.

tfrog · Nov 30, 2008, 08:25 PM

No, but really, try the doggy style. It's been known to hit the legendary G-Spot in you women. If that doesn't work out for you try sexual positions where there is penetration as well as contact to your clitoris. Studies have shown that the clitoris is what triggers orgasms in women, although it is an ongoing argument. (some say G-Spot, Some say clitoris).

If your boyfriend is fingering you or giving you oral sex, again, try both penetration and clitoral contact. Having his one hand move inside you and having the other hand rub your clitoris might do the job.
Rhythm is key as well. It won't work if he's just mashing his fingers inside you while slapping your . If you feel embarrassed to voice your needs, then use body language to communicate to your boyfriend and let him know that he's going too slow or too fast.

Synnen · Dec 1, 2008, 06:57 AM

Closed because of dates.