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    Apr 1, 2013, 09:13 AM
    Will he ever love me again?
    I have really broke the no contact rule!

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    #2

    Apr 1, 2013, 09:22 AM
    Maybe?
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    Apr 1, 2013, 09:32 AM
    We aren't psychics! You tell us.
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    Apr 1, 2013, 09:39 AM
    Relax! Im new to this!
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    Apr 1, 2013, 10:02 AM
    Help me did I really mess up
    Me and my boyfriend was together for 8months ,he was actually a good guy we will do things I enjoyed. Going out to eat, movies roses cook etc. My family like him and he seem to be my Mr. Perfect.

    Don't get it twisted he definitely had a past .see he was once know as a player,and I know that when we 1st started talking but I always loved a challenge so I was up for some modein (he's 22,I'm 24)! Anyway I started to become a little bit of a! Now I'm fully aware of how I can get! But I think I may have gone overboard! I became extremely insecure! (&I'm attractiveツ) I became needy. I didn't take his feelings seriously his closest friends and family will tell me how much he cares.AnD's have changed a lot ,I see the changes he never says no he always ready to listen I just really missed up the relationship! Soooooo 8days ago we got in a argument and I reacted so abruptly and out of anger smashed his 42 inch flatscreen (he knows my anger at times ) ! I really didn't mean to I just was so upset. My feelings was hurt and I just reacted. I haven't seen him since. He called me once didn't say much let me apologize for about 6mins then he hungup. Called me again but I missed. It was 3a.m and I haven't talk to him since he has blocked me on everything ,my family!! I have NEVERRRR seen. Him this upset at me, he will have been let me come back home: ( I decided I wanted to do the not contact rule but I have broke it horribly I have called and text him from different numbers, I have went to his house twice no answer &he has roommates I don't know what to do no more I have sent a million. I'm sorry texts. Is it really over? Should/could I start the rule over? Do he still love me? Will he forgive?
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    Apr 1, 2013, 10:09 AM
    Get on with your life. BUT use this incident on how you can improve for the next relationship.
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    Apr 1, 2013, 10:26 AM
    Was I really in the wrong?
    I smashed his flatscreen! I was mad I found pictures of his babymother that he supposed to hate and she have a man! He said he swear on his kids he don't nor with her! A part believe him but HE'S A MAN!! & I WAS MAD
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    Apr 1, 2013, 10:27 AM
    The blocked out the curses
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    Apr 1, 2013, 11:37 AM
    I smashed his flatscreen! I was mad I found pictures of his babymother that he supposed to hate and she have a man! He said he swear on his kids he don't nor with her! A part believe him but HE'S A MAN!! & I WAS MAD
    So you smashed his flat screen because you were mad at pictures you found?

    Yes, you're in the wrong, and he can charge you with destruction of property, or at the very least take you to court to make you pay for his flat screen.

    If you resort to violence when you're angry, sooner or later you'll end up in jail.

    The blocked out the curses
    We don't allow cursing on this site. There are children on this site, and educated people that don't need to resort to cursing. We don't allow that sort of behavior here. Because we can't trust that everyone will adhere to the rules, the system is set up to block out curse words.
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    Apr 1, 2013, 11:42 AM
    You should stick to no contact. It sounds like he's had enough of your anger, and he's decided to move on. You may see him again if he decides to take you to court over the TV you broke. But after that you should get on with your life, and let him get on with his.

    Perhaps you should get help dealing with your anger issues before you start a new relationship.
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    Apr 1, 2013, 01:13 PM
    Move on with your life BUT learn from this so this doesn't happen in your next relationship.
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    Apr 1, 2013, 02:15 PM
    Sounds like someone has anger issues... yes, you were wrong.
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    Apr 1, 2013, 09:11 PM
    What should I do now ?
    I broke the no contact rule &had sex!!
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    Apr 1, 2013, 09:37 PM
    Live with it, it's done and over with. I can't tell if your taking this as a positive or a negative.
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    Apr 1, 2013, 11:22 PM
    You had sex with whom? Your partner or somebody else? Because if you had sex with your partner then both of you broke the rule.
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    Apr 3, 2013, 03:09 PM
    What's going on? Let go?
    Soo. Me and my boyfriend of 8months been through slot which seemed like 8years we were expecting my 1st & his 2nd child... About 3wekks ago I had a miscarriage due to stress. My boyfriend has always been there for me and is actually a good guy but when we found out about the pregnancy it's damped our relationship, I became extremely insecure! And started to push him away, I did a lot of accusing, I had recently went through his phone randomly yes it wasn't right but he had done it me before (2wrongs do make it right bt it makes it even ) & I found conversation with ex girlfriends! And to add assault to injury he recently went out of town to visit his daughter and I found in his duffle pictures of his babymother and old ones when their together! Now I know she have a boyfriend and my boyfriend can't stand her hut deal with her because of his child, he told keep times before that's how she is. And she always do things like that when he with someone, I'm not sure what to think I feel in much heart he is honest with me, so my reaction to finding the pictures I smashed his 42inch flatscreen ripe our child ultrasound along with the pictures I had found!! We had many argument s and my anger had gotten out of control many times before! But this time I'm not sure what to think, we had no contact fot about a week. Then he came to just house were talked (didn't settle nor get back together )but we had sex! After that he seemed distance again and sat and said he didn't want no emotional attachment but then when I asked him he said he was comfortable with me anyway that was aday ago and we were supposed to meet yesterday but he never showed, no call,text nothing! Now I'm here hurt confused what should I do now!! Help me please

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    Apr 3, 2013, 04:07 PM
    Extreme jealousy ruins EVERY relationship.
    Apologize for everything, especially for being angry about the baby pictures.
    How can you possibly think you have a right to deny him the right to see his child?
    If you don't control your anger you will absolutely lose him.
    If you haven't already.
    You are too off the handle to be a mother right now. You want to take care of a child for 18 years all alone?
    Learn how to walk out of the room to think before you react. And spend some time thinking about how poisonous jealousy is.
    If a man screws around on you, you break up with him, you don't get violent.
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    Apr 3, 2013, 04:12 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by ITHURTS0726 View Post
    Soo. Me and my boyfriend of 8months been thru slot which seemed like 8years we was expecting my 1st & his 2nd child.... About 3wekks ago i had a miscarriage due to stress. My boyfriend has always been there for me and is actually a good guy but when we found out about the pregnancy it's damped our relationship, i became extremely insecure!! And started to push him away, i did alot of accusing, i had recently went thru his phone randomly yes it wasn't right but he had done it me before (2wrongs do make it right bt it makes it even ) & i found conversation with ex girlfriends! And to add assault to injury he recently went out of town to visit his daughter and i found in his duffle pictures of his babymother and old ones when their together!! Now i know she have a boyfriend and my boyfriend can't stand her hut deal with her because of his child, he told keep times before that's how she is. And she always do things like that when he with someone, i'm not sure what to think i feel in much heart he is honest with me, so my reaction to finding the pictures i smashed his 42inch flatscreen ripe our child ultrasound along with the pictures i had found!!! We had many argument s and my anger had gotten outta control many times before! But this time i'm not sure what to think, we had no contact fot about a week. Then he came to just house were talked (didn't settle nor get back together )but we had sex! After that he seemed distance again and sat and said he didn't want no emotional attachment but then when i asked him he said he was comfortable with me anyway that was aday ago and we was supposed to meet yesterday but he never showed, no call,text nothing!! Now i'm here hurt confused what should i do now!!!!!??????!! Help me please

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    I think you need to let him go and work on your anger management skills before attempting another relationship.

    Trying to stay in contact with him as you are doing now will cause you more pain and confusion. The confusion is not allowing you to heal mentally and emotionally. It is also adding more stress that your body does not need at this time.

    Give yourself time and space. Go full No Contact while you get some some help dealing with your issues. Later, when you are stronger and better able to handle your emotions, you can decide what you want in a relationship and go from there.

    Good luck and take care of yourself.
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    Apr 3, 2013, 09:58 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Cat1864 View Post
    I think you need to let him go and work on your anger management skills before attempting another relationship.

    Trying to stay in contact with him as you are doing now will cause you more pain and confusion. The confusion is not allowing you to heal mentally and emotionally. It is also adding more stress that your body does not need at this time.

    Give yourself time and space. Go full No Contact while you get some some help dealing with your issues. Later, when you are stronger and better able to handle your emotions, you can decide what you want in a relationship and go from there.

    Good luck and take care of yourself.
    Thank you!
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    Apr 3, 2013, 09:59 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by joypulv View Post
    Extreme jealousy ruins EVERY relationship.
    Apologize for everything, especially for being angry about the baby pictures.
    How can you possibly think you have a right to deny him the right to see his child?
    If you don't control your anger you will absolutely lose him.
    If you haven't already.
    You are too off the handle to be a mother right now. You want to take care of a child for 18 years all alone?
    Learn how to walk out of the room to think before you react. And spend some time thinking about how poisonous jealousy is.
    If a man screws around on you, you break up with him, you don't get violent.


    You are right &thanks for the advice.

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