[marie2809]

I have been happily married for the past four years and we've have been together for seven years. Our sex life is great he treats me really good and everything but I think I'm starting to have feelings for another man form my work it started just as friends then he gave me his number and asked me to text him well we started texting as friends for a while then he started telling me how pretty I was and that he would love to be more and I've told him that I was a happily married woman but I can't make myself stop texting him or stop thinking of him don't get me wrong I love my husband very much but there's something about the way that this man treats me that I can't make myself walk away sooo please help tell me what should I do

[J_9]

You don't love your husband or you would not be acting this way.

What should you do? Either love your husband the way you say you do and get rid of this man's number, or divorce your husband. There is really no other choice.

Do you have children? Is this other man married?

[smkanand]

Wake up, 4 years of good married life and your husband treats you great. There will be always people around you who are charming and way of talking and treating. So delete this guy from contact list and look back at your home. Divorce is the only option if you chose to be with other guy.

[Fr_Chuck]

Just let husband see text, he will divorce you and you can have the new "man" who most likely is texting several women.

If you really love husband, stop NOW, not another single text to this man, and delete his without reading them.
If you have to change jobs if it means saving marriage

[Oliver2011]

This is a really bad path you are on. You really want to be with someone that doesn't respect boundaries? There is something about the way he treats you now but I have heard nothing about him wanting to make a commitment. Wake up and use your brain.

[Jake2008]

One of the next possible steps would be for you to get inolved with this another man, and find fault with your husband in order to justify it.

I think it is possible to love your husband, and at the same time, feel the need to be flattered and like the excitement of the 'game'. Which is what this is.

But it is a very dangerous game, and you CAN control yourself. It is ridiculous to suggest that you simply cannot block his number and stop texting him. You do have control over your own behaviour and actions.

If you are that shallow and disrespectful to your husband, he is the one that should at least have the option of getting out, not you. It is you that is heading down that path that clearly says a full blown cheap affair is going to happen; why should he suffer the consequences when he's done nothing wrong.

Your whole life could be blown apart, even by the simple act of him using your phone and seeing the texts that you accidentally forgot to erase on day.

Do the right thing. Step up and be a woman with some common sense, and stop playing a very dangerous game that will end up destroying that man that you 'love'.

[ITHURTS0726]

PlZzzzz Girl!! Do you OK you love you husband but ain't nothing wrong with friends! I'm not agreeing with cheating completely! But I'm saying you can still love you man and do the same WE ARE WOMEN! It's not really about you husband nor him, maybe you just wanted to test you waters again!

[AtLarge]

We are all human and just because we love and are married to and dedicated to one person does not mean we don't recognize others that we may be attracted to. But it is how you react that can affect the rest of your life. And if you value your marriage (as it seems you do) you will want to respond carefully.

First of all, don't give yourself a bad time. Just step back and if you want to keep your good marriage, move on and don't open that door. Your actions will probably be enough to send the message. But spell it out if you have to.

There is no need to tell your husband anything. But if you have a strong marriage and understanding husband, my guess is that he would understand - as long as you don't act on any of this, that is :)

Good luck!