[prashan]

My name is prashanth. I'm a Brahmin from Chennai. My girl is a Muslim. We both are doing our BE together. We both fell in love and decided to carry on with our relationship after a month long discussion. We couldn't live without each other. So decided to be together and face whatever problems come in our way. I don't know what made me say this but I said her that I am ready to get converted if your parents demand me to. But later my friends said it’s a foolishness to hurt my parents who are already in many problems health wise.

Recently again she asked me whether will I convert, but this time I said no. By saying that I can't hurt my parents, rather let’s happily live together with our own religion status if parents accept. She was hurt and couldn't take it at all and decided to end up saying her parents will be thrown out and get insulted from their community if I don't convert. But later she came back saying that no, she can't live without me. But still I am scared. What if this happens again? What should I tell her? Firstly we aren't sure that they will accept me, only neither do my parents.
My parents are too strict with all these religions though they had set up modern surrounding at home. When it comes to religion they just turn into typical priests. I believe God. God is everything for me but I don't believe the word religion. Secondly, I am in my second year. Two years more to go to finish my BE. My marks weren't too good to convince my parents and her parents. So completely started working on my studies. I want to do my masters in US to get well set and convince. I am focused on going there as my parents already started pushing me for it.
In fact that’s my dream. But scared to leave her here and go. What if her parents push her into marriage? It will take minimum 3 years for me to come back. What should I ask her to do?

Some people say it’s really early to think on it. But in my heart I just know how difficult and important for me to think about it. I need to focus on my career by going there so that I could convince our parents. But same time what if I lose her?
These days I am really confused about it. Not able to do any other work after the second she asked me whether surely I will convert.

I need ma parents and she also needs her parents. Parents are always the 1st preference but same time can't live without each other. 100% sure on it. Will our parents allow? How can we convince them? What plans can I make for the future to live a happy life with her? I don't want to leave her at any cost. She can never take that.

Please respond as I am just waiting for some heartwarming response. Totally heartbroken and confused.

[Fr_Chuck]

First you don't know they won't accept, they may, if they will not, you have nothing to convince them with, since it is based on religious faith, not money or status.

So both of you must be willing to be disowned by parents, this is love, if you are not ready to give up parents for her, then it is not love

[smkanand]

I think Prashan, you should complete your studies first, at least BE. Because without this, you don't have strong future prospect and you also like to see yourself successful. Secondly. You guys don't have to convert. You guys can do civil marriage just like saifkareena. None of them got converted. Plus when the girl will marry you she can keep her last name as well as your last name e.g. kapoor-khan. I think you should not convert just to get married. Nor the girl should convert. Your parents will be hurt but most importantly if a person loves you truly then he/she should accept you the way you are. If she loves you she has to wait for at least completing your BE because you can't promise her good future at this point. After the BE you can get good job as well as do studies.

[talaniman]

You talk together and figure out how to overcome whatever obstacles you face just like you promised in he beginning. You both have to be willing to do what you feel is right even if neither parents approve, yours, or hers.

Does she know you have to leave for 3 years? She should because 3 years is a long ime to wait. You and her need some honest communications between you like right NOW!