[Fun123Joker]

I think my mom is being paranoid but why now? When I look back I think it started two years ago. When I wanted to go outside my mom would always make up some case like "haven't you heard there was a girl raped in just the other neighborhood" or "there was a kidnapping around just a few days ago" but I respect her sooo I believed her. I would stay inside and ask her every two weeks. When I turned 12 she let me walk to a striped mall not too far walking distance. Now I'm 14 and it's like she won't allow me to get a life. Every time I'm on the computer in my room she would always think I'm on skype and always tell me "your older sisters webcam got taken off sooo" but only in my room when I use it in the living room its totally OK. One of the conversations ended with " I don't want you to talk to people I don't know!" here I realized

For some history my mom works in a tiny private school (Catholic school) this school is K-8 and like 12-17 kids A GRADE. My two older sisters went to that school and it seemed OK because they would be under watch and my mom would know every kid and their parents. I now go to a public middle school but here is where it's crossed the line.
Just recently the same Saturday my mom went to look at colleges for my older sister I had to go to this little strip mall for a drama project. In my class we needed to make book trailers and time was short so we needed to meet on Saturday. I told my mom that I needed to go and she went on and on about "remember if they do bad things like drugs or sex don't do it" I was shocked my mom would think I would do that. I even refused to date at my age (14) she also said that if it rains I can't go.
So its Saturday morning and this was the third time she called me here is how the conversation went
Mom: good mooring
Me: good morning
Mom: I see you're up
Me: yeah since this is the third time you called me
Mom: well your grandmother tells me it's drizzling so call your friends saying you're not going
Me: really its bright as day outside not one drop
Mom: well you're not going
Me: mom I think you're paranoid
Mom: I'M NOT PARANOID KNOW WHAT, YOU'RE NOT GOING ANYWAY SO CALL YOUR FRIENDS.
Me: OK I wasn't going to go anyway

Just as I was typing this, my grandma entered and asked me why I wasn't going. If she really told my mom it was raining then wouldn't she know? Or was it that... my mom was lying to me. I can't stand the fact that she would lie to me I mean she wouldn't lie to me right?

[JudyKayTee]

Paranoia would not involve arguments over whether it's raining. Is she overprotective? Very possibly. I don't find a concern that you are communicating with strangers via Skype to be irrational.

I find printing out a conversation word for word to be a little obsessive.

Where are you? What Country? What is a striped mall?

[smkanand]

Sometime a cure to problem is another problem. You start telling and asking each single thing you do to your mom. Soon she will tell you not to call her that often. Trust me , its works. Just make it sound natural and genuine, not fake or sarcastic.

[teacherjenn4]

Are you talking about a strip mall, like the kind that are on the corner of two streets and have a few shops? Why can't your friends come to your house to work on the project? You haven't mentioned your father. Is he available?

[talaniman]

She sounds like a typical private school teacher keeping close strict tabs on her daughter. You may be more challenging in public schools than your older privately schooled siblings. Will she lie to keep that strict control? I doubt in her own mind it is lying, she may of just thought it would rain later.

Hard to say really, but you sound like a good daughter, and she wants it to stay that way as she may trust YOU, but not the world you live in, or your friends. I also think you are smart enough to know all this already, and she will not change until you are grown and gone from the house like your older siblings. They survived, so will you, despite your public school ideas and friends.

Your mom will see to that no doubt.

[JudyKayTee]

I find this to be very ill advised - "sometime a cure to problem is another problem. you start telling and asking each single thing u do to ur mom. soon she will tell you not to call her that often. trust me , its works. just make it sound natural and genuine, not fake or sarcastic."

Advising someone to harrass the parent until she simply gives up supervising the child is bad advice, indeed - and game playing at its finest. Acting in this fashion is guaranteed to make the mother not trust the child. Perhaps the people in your "believe me" scenario weren't as fast on the uptake as this mother appears to be.

It is also difficult for me to take you seriously when you continue to use text speak - which is not allowed on AMHD.

[smkanand]

I'm not asking to harrass parents, I'm, asking to be more careful and caring than the usual. Perhaps her mother excepting more from her. You have taken it wrong.

[JudyKayTee]

No, I understood you just fine - "you start telling and asking each single thing u do to ur mom. soon she will tell you not to call her that often."

This translates to ask about every little thing and soon the mother won't want to be consulted on every little thing.

[teacherjenn4]

I'm not asking to harrass parents, I'm, asking to be more careful and caring than the usual. perhaps her mother excepting more from her. you have taken it wrong.

What does "excepting more from her" mean. I have to caution you on use of text/ chat speak also. You use it all over this site and it is not allowed.

[Fr_Chuck]

Sounds like a somewhat normal over protective mother, esp since you are just 14.