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supermario2012 · Mar 10, 2013, 03:43 PM

Okay am Eric, 21. Been dating this girl for about 5 months now. Parents called me to tutor her once and that was how the whole thing began. I noticed she was into me, even though I knew I wasn't that much into her, I played along because she's not really that bad looking. From then on, things kind of clicked. After a while, we made out and after a while it sort of graduated to other things. We've done practically everything except actually have sex. I've fallen deeply in love with her and she leads me to believe she's in love with me too. I really think we'll make a magnificent life together. Sometimes we talk about what our children'll look like and what sort of family we'll raise together like we're already so certain we were meant for each other.

Over recent months, she's told me about guys she's into and had major crushes on, even before she met me. One of these guys she's still really into. Like calls him every other hour, gives him stuffi don't think she's ever given me (mostly materaial though), it just seems to me like she chose me in the first place because this guy was really looking her way and now that he's shown interest, she wants to be with him. Like I was just the next best thing or rather the next next best thing. The major problem is, I'm not free to talk to anyone about it because our relationship is severely secret and if it comes out, her life's literally over. Her family is a really popular christian one and they don't condone relationships of any sort. I just want to know if she's worth all the hiding and secrecy when I could actually be out there having a decent and open relationship with someone who I love and who loves me back without other guys involved.

I really don't like sharing, just like she doesn't. Don't really think she even gets jealous about me being close with other gals anymore. Someone please say something.

tickle · Mar 10, 2013, 03:56 PM

How old is she? You didn't say, because you already know she is too young, right? Too immature and you have already gone too far, yes, I know you said no sex, but think you had better stop now and just think this through because of her age.

supermario2012 · Mar 10, 2013, 04:36 PM

Sorry I didn't mention. She's actually 17. Too young? Seriously?

tickle · Mar 11, 2013, 03:04 AM

It actually sounds like, even though she is 17, her maturity level could be lower. Her personality sounds very young. Not quite on the same page as you are.

supermario2012 · Mar 11, 2013, 10:59 AM

So basically, your advice is?

tickle · Mar 11, 2013, 11:34 AM

Originally Posted by supermario2012

So basically, your advice is??

Basically my advice is don't pursue a relationship with this young lady. It won't go very far.

Oliver2011 · Mar 11, 2013, 12:20 PM

I agree with Tickle. And really, you can't know that you will have a magnificent life together after 5 months. You all are still in the honeymoon stage.

talaniman · Mar 11, 2013, 02:05 PM

Secrets and drama the first 5 months is not a committed exclusive relationship in any form or fashion. She is 17, from a strict family and you are but an intriguing distraction. Yeah you guys talk the love talk fantasy but seriously where is the fun of dating and relating. There is none.

You are just the only guy she is allowed to see. But nobody knows you as a couple, or her boyfriend. Sorry guy, your make out buddy has lead a very protected life, and soon will move from high school to college. Be smart enough to know this secret love thing is only a temporary fancy and will end soon.

She ain't going against the plans of her paents no matter what you feel.