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Duda23 · Mar 6, 2013, 05:34 AM

So a couple months ago started to talk to this girl that I had in a couple of my classes at college. She was single at the time and talking was going well. Right around finals week I was considering asking her out and thought to wait after finals week when were all not stressed studying. Well around that same time she ran into her ex again and a couple weeks later they started dating again. Now I'm fine with it since at this time was still deciding if I should ask her out or not but now we have three classes together due to us having the same major and she still is trying to act the same way as she did before she went back to her ex.

Basically she will wait for me before and after classea ao we can walk in together like we use to before her ex came back into the picture. I even tell her to go on ahead without me but she won't listen.Now I'm just trying to find a nice way to get this to stop since I know due to my major we will have many other classes together and I don't want it to feel akward when were in class.

So just looking for ideas or suggestions on how to fix this. I was thinking just waiting till summer break when were not around each other as much and every time she ask to hang or something I'd just ignore her or say no.

Oliver2011 · Mar 6, 2013, 05:47 AM

Well you could be open and honest with her and tell her you aren't comfortable hanging out since she is back with her ex. That would accomplish two things - It would give you the break you want but it would also communicate that you were interested in exploring going out with her.

You could also take a different route to your next class, say you forgot something in your car, start hanging out with other people from the class, etc.

talaniman · Mar 6, 2013, 07:53 AM

Honesty is the best policy but does she really have to know you cannot accept just being friends? I think you have the right idea about letting this ride as is for a while, and maybe backing off hanging out, or anything other than class or studies. Some of my best female friends have been ones that I took a liking to, but nothing developed other than just friends.

This is more how you cope with your own feelings or if you let your feelings deal with you because basically nothing has changed but YOU. Romance was shot down, and yeah that's dissapointing, but you still have the same friend you had before. If you cannot handle it, then tell her why, and leave her alone.

Just me, I keep the friendship and look for someone else to ask out. Just me though.

Duda23 · Mar 6, 2013, 03:24 PM

Yeah I get what your saying and I'm probably just going to go with my plan since it feels like the best way to me. It is nice having somebody to work with when trying to understand something in classes and what not but that's really the only place I want to keep it is a school thing.