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Freight_Train · Mar 5, 2013, 01:32 PM

Okay so I've been pondering this question for awhile. In the bedroom, I've noticed that when my partner calls me a slut, whore etc... its a huge turn on. Normally I would be PO'd that someone said so but it make a difference in the bedroom. It's probably just a think that other people might share but I never thought I have that type of interest. So I guess what I'm saying is, is that really a normal thing? And when I say is this normal, I mean is it healthy too.

It's not necessarily a big problem but feelings like this bring up some big confusion. Any ideas and/or advice is welcome, thanks.

Something that might help is that I am 19... if that really makes a difference.

dontknownuthin · Mar 5, 2013, 01:44 PM

Some people like some fantasy in their sexual play, and dirty talk can be a common part of it. If you generally think well of yourself and don't think of yourself in negative terms; and if you only date men who wouldn't call you these things (except because you ask them to as part of sexual play), I wouldn't worry about it.

If you feel like being sexual makes you a slut, that's another issue. If you think of yourself in these offensive terms, I would recommend counseling.

smoothy · Mar 6, 2013, 07:45 PM

What happens between consenting adults behind closed doors is between them...

You don't have to like it publicly to like it in private. You can be a freak in bed... and mother Teresa in public if that's your thing.

Handyman2007 · Mar 10, 2013, 05:10 PM

I personally could not call my lover a name like that. But there are people that get really turned on by it because it evokes really strong fantasy vibes. As long as you keep it in the bedroom and so does your partner, it's all good. But let me just tell you something. You are 19. This guy doesn't sound like he may be husband material(?) . My suggestion is that should you stop seeing this guy, be sure that you do not date anyone that he knows. It will be a sure bet that he has shared this little "secret" already with friends.

Fr_Chuck · Mar 11, 2013, 02:41 AM

I would personally never find it acceptable, since it puts sex at a level of less than love. But then if this is what turns him on and you are OK with it, then it is OK. BUT, since you asked, I have a feeling you are not really OK with it perhaps ?