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    Mar 5, 2013, 11:42 AM
    Sex life.
    So basically, I can't achieve an orgasm without using a vibrator, therefore I don't enjoy sex. It is more of a chore if anything and it's the main cause of fighting in my relationship. I don't feel anything, I never have. It sucks because I want to be normal, but he always makes my feel like I'm a freak.

    I know it's not intentional but it's hard for me to be into something that I get no pleasure out of. We love one another to death, but is this going to be what breaks us? I have sex with him and/or go down on him about once a day... and that doesn't seem to be enough.. I am just so lost. He knew this about me from the beginning and we're in two years deep now.. I just don't want sex to be what tears us apart. I have tried to explain.. he just gets moody when I don't feel like doing anything and always has to make it a negative thing. I think he just doesn't think I'm attracted to him, but that's not the case.

    In the beginning I did it more with him because he was a total romantic and made me feel special and I told him if he did that sometimes things would be different but I see no changes. I would be more open to having intercourse with him if he put the right moves on me like he did when we first got together. I feel like I do my part... don't I? Maybe a males perspective on this would help.
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    Mar 5, 2013, 11:54 AM
    You have made yourself too dependent pleasing yourself with a vibrator. Throw the darn thing out and go without until you get horny enough to have your partner please you.

    This situation must be a real downer for him. It's a given that you have a lot invested in this relationship, and so he knew you only wanted or needed to please yourself, but you still have to fix this. That is why you are here.

    So fix it. Throw out the vibrator and get acquainted with the proper equipment.
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    Mar 5, 2013, 05:39 PM
    I don't think you understand though, I feel nothing from a penis. It simply feels like something is just going in and out... no stimulation... no nothing.
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    Mar 5, 2013, 07:47 PM
    First this,

    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/adult-...sh-729861.html

    Now you can't have sex unless its romantic?

    You better be mighty good with other ways of pleasuring your man if you want him to buy you batteries!! Maybe showing him how to use the vibrator to get you off, and enduring till he gets done, but to be honest it sounds like a chore for him too!

    UGH!! Both of you go together to get help.

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