[Sadperson12345]

Ok well am 16 years old and I have never had a girlfriend in my life, it's not cause am ugly. I have been called a good looking person before and I have had girls liking me but for some reason every time I get close to a relationship with a girl that I do like. I CHOKE! I know they want me to ask them out because of flirting that happens between us and how nervous we get when talk to each other. I guess "m scared of losing the person by her thinking am boring, a loser, or a just not worth going out with me anymore...if we do go out?

I want it to last forever but I know your first girlfriend is not likely to be with you for that long. Like my recent problem was when I got really close to asking my crush out. Which I knew she wanted me to ask her! She waited for me to ask her plenty of times (3 months). But on Valentine's Day I decided to give her a card with a rose, expressing what I would do if I was her boyfriend! But I didn't write my name on it instead I wrote "sincerely from you secret admirer" after I turned the card to my high schools office, which were going to give it to her, in one of her classes. Well after school I told her "just from curiosity lf she had a boyfriend" and she said "I'm not single because am waiting for my secret admirer to ask me out"!

The very next day, she waited for me to ask her out already because I notice her glancing at me more than usual and her friends giving her space if I did go up and ask her out but again I choked! And after class she took the Valentine card and threw it away :( since that day I haven't talk to her. What should I do?! :(((

[janice83]

Treat the girl that you want to ask out as a '' friend'' not a girlfriend, you don't need to put on an act of romance, be friends like one of you male friends. Ask her if she would like to go somewhere where there is plenty of things to talk about, bowling, a fair, don't get too close too soon, the more you get to know her and she gets to know you, then the dates could be more personal ( a meal for two) you are still very young these things take time. Remember be friends first- good luck

[talaniman]

Stop choking and do the deed dude.

[odinn7]

It seems pretty clear to me that she knew you were the secret admirer and she is probably frustrated by this. You talk to her... you send her the card... then you fail. She's probably getting annoyed.

As was said right above me... stop choking and go for it. What can you lose? Just stop over thinking it.

[fredg]

I was a lot like you in high school, very nervous around girls. I still remember every girl I was friends with. Been divorced after first 7 yrs or marriage, then remarried for 30 years. Please stop trying so hard!
As another said, be friends with the girls or this girl, and calm down some. If after being friends, you want her for a girlfriend, and she wants you for a boyfriend, then ask her. But, don't be in such a hurry. The worst she can say is "no", later on. Good luck.

[Sadperson12345]

Its not that am afraid of getting rejected. I am afraid that she will brake up with me because of me being boring or just being a loser. Idk how to have a girlfriend