[alpittenger]

My boyfriend watches young teens being abused porn and other disturbing things. I give him everything he wants and it hurts me so much I think something is wrong with him I'm so torn and need help

[laakry]

I don't know if this is a troll or not but honestly you need to leave him asap. If he gets off to watching things about young teenagers/children being abused and other disturbing things, that is a very dangerous sign. Also DO NOT give him whatever he wants, he will take advantage of it. I urge you , PLEASE stay away from him, these are terrible warning signs...

[backpack2389]

I personally would be unsettled to find that kind of porn on my partner's computer. However, before up and leaving him, I think it would be worth it for you to talk to him about it. It can't hurt anything to let him know that you find his being aroused by young girls being hurt disturbing. Give him the opportunity to explain why he enjoys it.

There are many couples that enjoy a noncenventional sexual relationship that involves 'abusive' elements. They chain and handcuff each other, they whip each other, they deprive each other of air, in short they hurt each other and in doing so actually increase their sexual enjoyment. Some theories suggest that the pain actually registers as pleasure when these people become aroused - the nerve pathways either become altered or the signals they send change.

If he doesn't try to bring any of the elements from the porn (that you are not comfortable with) into the bedroom, I'm not sure it's worth your worry. However, everyone has their limits and if you feel this is intolerable, then don't stay. It's not worth you feeling uncomfortable and it's not worth him feeling like something is wrong with him.

Note, everything I am saying here assumes that the 'young teens' are actually actresses ages 18+. If they are not, it's a completely different situation.

[joypulv]

Aside from the fact that using minors in any sex video is a federal offense, I'm worried by your sentence ' I give him everything he wants.' That is a passive, masochistic attitude, and I see it getting to close to a master/slave relationship that could hurt you dangerously.
You need to get out of this relationship and do it in a way that you are safe the minute you leave so that he can't retaliate or threaten you.
I could be wrong about both of you (based on so few words), but don't think so.

[CravenMorhead]

As was discussed in other threads, it may or may not be legal teens. All of the American produced porn that is distributed has to have records on it's actors. Age is a key number they need to have on record to ensure that it isn't considered illegal. That would be a black for the company.

As well, in this modern society, porn can be a bit of a outlet to satisfy some fetishes and leanings without troubling your partner with them. Though I think a good conversation about the content, and only the content is in order.

I can go on and on about the harmless nature of porn and the male mind, but I don't think it is required. You can look at some of the porn threads here and decide for yourself.

[alpittenger]

It isn't the first time either but this time I actually scrolled through his internet history and the videos are disgusting and disturbing. I get watching porn I understand that some males need that but I don't understand why someone would purposely search for young teens being sexually abused. I tried talking to him and he said he crossed a line and it will not happen again. But he has said that before and I just don't think he sees that he has done Anything wrong because it keeps happening. I don't understand why he even feels the need to watch porn. I offer to do just about Anything with him..

[joypulv]

"I don't understand why he even feels the need to watch porn."
Please read some of the many other threads here on this subject.
" I offer to do just about Anything with him."
That's not what it's about at all. Just for starters, I can only assume, because not all men are the same in this: he has fantasies that he WOULD NEVER ACT ON. You really, really need to understand what that means.
Have you ever thought about killing someone who you are mad at? Would you actually pick up an axe and chop that person's head off? No - but you might think about it. I don't know how many times I thought of all the ways I would kill my mother.
Do you get it?

[alpittenger]

"I don't understand why he even feels the need to watch porn."
Please read some of the many other threads here on this subject.
" I offer to do just about Anything with him."
That's not what it's about at all. Just for starters, I can only assume, because not all men are the same in this: he has fantasies that he WOULD NEVER ACT ON. You really, really need to understand what that means.
Have you ever thought about killing someone who you are mad at? Would you actually pick up an axe and chop that person's head off? No - but you might think about it. I don't know how many times I thought of all the ways I would kill my mother.
Do you get it?

I understand what you're saying. But I tell him how much it bothers me and he blows it off. He has no clue the effect it has on me and I honestly don't think he cares

[dontknownuthin]

I would recommend you read some of the other strings on here about porn. If minors are involved, his viewing of this information - and yours - is a felony. I don't think someone would download this type of content unless it's what they are truly into. That type of thing doesn't really change, so I'd be very concerned.

There have been several debates in recent weeks on issues around porn and I think it's safe to say that most possible viewpoints have been addressed. It would be very informative for you to read the other strings on the topic.

[joypulv]

'I don't think someone would download this type of content unless it's what they are truly into.'

Please understand that many of us have differing views. I disagree with that statement 100%, and said so with my murder analogy.

[CravenMorhead]

The point that Joypulv is trying to make that maybe it isn't him that needs to change but you. I tend to be more of a harsh poster than some here.

Would you like it if he, without saying anything, walk into the room, turn you around, drop your pants, have his way with you, and leave? Nothing violent. Just coming in and well c*ming in and leaving. I think not. Why? Because you're not a c*m dumpster. Think about that when the thought, "Why is he looking at porn when I am right here.".

Why does porn bother you? Are you afraid that he is comparing you to the models? Or that there is something that he sees here that you're unwilling to do? Or is it that that you're afraid he's dissatisfied with you and has to look at other women as a result?

You snooped on his computer and got what you want. Kind of the price you play for snooping, but that is another issue completely.

Chances are he is rubbing one off while watching the porn. Which is the main reason to consume porn really. It is scratching an itch, kind of like a private moment where he can take care of his needs. Alone. Kind of just empty the pipes. The porn is the seed of fantasy that is needed. This can range anywhere from normal vanilla porn to BSDM, Barely Legal, et al. It can range through a large variety of types. I can list several in mine, and they do include some 'rape fantasy'. Not much mind you, have more amateur or what not but there is some.

You see the male arousal cycle is rather simple. Get the seed and there you are. Some times it can just be the waitress bends over the right way and you see down her shirt. Does it mean that given the chance we would like to enact the porn flick? Nope. If we see said cleavage on the waitress we're not going to try to 'have' her right there. We might rub one off to the idea later, but that is between his hand and his prick.

Think about how much it takes to get you turned on compared. He isn't another female, and he doesn't work like you. He's committed to you. It is your bed he sleeps in and not another floozies. He is loyal to you, but that doesn't mean he isn't going to follow his biological imperative.

I honestly think you need to figure out why porn, not this teen rape stuff but regular porn, bugs you. You need to talk to him about that and impress upon him the possible legal ramifications if that isn't consensual and the players underage.. That is what concerns me.

Please read through a few of the porn threads here.

[CravenMorhead]

'I don't think someone would download this type of content unless it's what they are truly into.'

Please understand that many of us have differing views. I disagree with that statement 100%, and said so with my murder analogy.

I agree with this so much.