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semira92 · Feb 9, 2013, 10:43 AM

Hi guys,am new here.. I want to discuss a big tension of my lyf with you all. Am 20yrs old marriage is still far way to go bt because am truly in love with a guy so I need your suggestions on my prblm. He is a muslim and am a hindu,we are togthr from 3yrs in between my parents got to know about us and as expected they flatly refused to accept our relationship in future. We both are working damn hard towards our career,he is a very sweet,caring and loving guy,we both love each other a lot and can't even think of separation. But fear of my parents is killing me from inside. His father is unfortunately no more and his mother is very much fine wth him marrying any gal,d main problem is from my family. Guys please suggest me what to do in future in order to convience my parents for this relationship!

Cat1864 · Feb 23, 2013, 11:45 AM

Why is your mother against any possible marriage?

You probably already know your choices are to break up, go against your mother's wishes, or hope that something changes her mind.

It sounds like breaking up is not an option you wish to pursue. So, we will leave that one alone.

Going against your mother's wishes would mean hoping that she is bluffing about committing suicide. It would probably mean walking away from your family and not having any contact with them for a long time if ever. Could you live without their emotional support or without blaming your boyfriend/husband for destroying your family?

Is your mother the only person in your family who is against your relationship? If she is, is there a person who might talk to her on your behalf who might get her to understand how you feel?

Any time we get these questions, I do feel a need to ask if you and he have discussed your expectations for the future if you were to wed. Many times couples get so caught up in the struggle to get a family member/families to agree to the marriage that they don't stop to think about communicating and compromising on blending their lives together and raising children. These are things that need to be planned out before you wed.