[Dan_1995]

I would like to know why my 10 year old sister likes to be naughty, she is constantly getting wrong of my mother but nothing works. What can I do to help?

[JudyKayTee]

Nothing - it's your parents' problem, not yours. I have no idea, by the way, why she is naughty.

Has anyone thought to ask her?

[talaniman]

How old are YOU Dan? Older, or younger? What do you mean by naughty? Generally its up to your mom how she is handled and asking her how you can be of help is my general advice.

[Dan_1995]

How old are YOU Dan? Older, or younger? What do you mean by naughty? Generally its up to your mom how she is handled and asking her how you can be of help is my general advice.

The way she talks to people in general is dead nasty when no one has done or said anything, as a punishment my mam sends her to her own room.
This is my 1st time using online help.

[JudyKayTee]

And how old are you? Why can't your parents handle her behavior? It's unusual for a sibling to be asked to help discipline a second child.

[Dan_1995]

And how old are you? Why can't your parents handle her behavior? It's unusual for a sibling to be asked to help discipline a second child.

I don't want to discipline my sister at all, my mam doesn't know I am on this, and I am wanting to know what will help stop prevent her using anger towaords others, like will more activities help ?

[J_9]

How old are you?

[JudyKayTee]

Dan, we keep asking you your age - why aren't you answering?

No, activities are not going to change the way to talks to people.

[Dan_1995]

Dan, we keep asking you your age - why aren't you answering?

No, activities are not going to change the way to talks to people.

I am 17, I have been that age and I haven't known any other child that age to be as aggressive

[Wondergirl]

I don't want to discipline my sister at all, my mam dosent know I am on this, and I am wanting to know what will help stop prevent her using anger towaords others, like will more activities help ?

Here is what you can do. When you see her acting up, take her gently by the hand and both of you move to a different part of the room. Meanwhile, sing to her. Make it a fun song, like a pop or rock song she knows, or begin reciting a poem or nursery rhyme. Don't scold her or yell at her, just sing or recite. Then get some body movements into it -- clap your hands and rock back and forth and pump your arms up into the air -- get her moving too. Ask her for requests and dedications, and ask if she wants to pick a song to sing or poem to say together.

In other words, divert her attention from being naughty.

Or play a game with her like Concentration (use playing cards or picture tiles or even make cards with her and draw pictures on them, two of the same picture on two cards and make, say, ten pairs of cards that you turn upside down and take turns trying to match them). Do you know how to play this game? Sometimes it is called Memory.

The trick is to get her involved in constructive activities. Girls her age love to make things, so cut out stuff or draw stuff with her.

Have her help you put together an Activity Bag or Activity Box full of pencils and markers and crayons and paper and 3x5 cards and little books and small puzzles and puzzle books and crossword puzzles for her age and all kinds of stickers and little school scissors. If she feels like she is going to be naughty or if you see her being this way, then it's time to open the Activity Bag.

Girls this age like to dress up too, so have another bag or box stuffed full of old clothes, like scarves, ribbons, old hats, baseball cap, a nightgown, Dad's old shirt, a shawl, old glasses, a pair of Mom's old shoes -- whatever, and then play Dress Up. Dress up as a librarian or as a teacher or as a grandma. And YOU dress up too! :)

[Dan_1995]

Here is what you can do. When you see her acting up, take her gently by the hand and both of you move to a different part of the room. Meanwhile, sing to her. Make it a fun song, like a pop or rock song she knows, or begin reciting a poem or nursery rhyme. Don't scold her or yell at her, just sing or recite. Then get some body movements into it -- clap your hands and rock back and forth and pump your arms up into the air -- get her moving too. Ask her for requests and dedications, and ask if she wants to pick a song to sing or poem to say together.

In other words, divert her attention from being naughty.

Or play a game with her like Concentration (use playing cards or picture tiles or even make cards with her and draw pictures on them, two of the same picture on two cards and make, say, ten pairs of cards that you turn upside down and take turns trying to match them). Do you know how to play this game? Sometimes it is called Memory.

The trick is to get her involved in constructive activities. Girls her age love to make things, so cut out stuff or draw stuff with her.

Thank you for this reply, this is all I was looking 4, a positive reply, not a page full of questions :) + I asked this question mainly because I do like to help out with situations like this.

[talaniman]

You could always ask her why she cuts up, big brother, and let her know why its unacceptable. If she is your only sibling, with the age difference she may be just be like a spoiled only child trying to get someone's attention.

Give her plenty.

Sorry, we have to ask so many questions but the more specific the info, the more precise the suggestion. For all we know, you could be twelve, and that changes the equation.

[Wondergirl]

Thankyou for this reply, this is all I was looking 4, a positive reply, not a page full of questions :) + I asked this question mainly becuase I do like to help out with situations like this.

I added more, so check back on my reply.

***BEYOND MORE*** I'll bet she loves to read and be read to. Have her pick out a book. (Or go to the library with her to pick out some for future reading together with you.) She reads a page, then you read a page, or vary it somehow so you both read. Do voices and animals sounds as you read. Get her imagination churning. Ask her questions along the way -- "What do you think will happen next?" or "Why do you think the little girl is crying?"

***MORE BEYOND MORE*** Get books of riddles and jokes from the library and read them together, quiz each other. Get some great poems for reading aloud with her ("Congo" by Vachel Lindsay or "Bells" by Poe -- the library probably has a book full of read-aloud poems).

AND the library has books on activities to do with various ages of kids, so look for those or ask a librarian for help.