[Rosamaria31]

I have a friend who is having an affair with a married man. He was her ex but ended the relationship and married another woman. They have two children and the third child is on the way.

She has a habit to call and talk about the sex she has with him and other details I find unsettling. I have been telling her I don´t want to know about this relationship, but she talks about it all the time.

When she told me the third baby was on it´s way, I asked her to reconsider this affair and leave it alone, but she keeps saying that this man will come to her, divorce the wife and that she will raise the kids with him.

I have run out of things to say and I don´t know what to do. Truth to be told, I find her behavior disgusting. How can she be with a man who is having a baby with his wife? It´s like she has no self respect.

I told her to her face that I find it disgusting, but she said she didn´t care.

Please help if you have any advice.

[odinn7]

Next time she starts talking to you about this, tell her you don't care to hear about it and hang up.

[Fr_Chuck]

So stop talking to her, hang up if she talks about it.
Tell her what you think of her and never talk to her again, you have lots of choices.

But also remember that the man is also making the choices also

[joypulv]

At what point does a friend cease to be a friend, and you do something about it? You tell us why she is still your friend...
Aside from the obvious distaste over her affair, she has no regard for your wish not to hear about it.
I would not ever want to totally dump a friend. But I would tell her right out that you are dumping her until she finds someone who isn't married. And yes, hang up on her.

[Rosamaria31]

Thank you all for replying.

I have decided to sever all ties to her until this is affair is over.

[MikeBear]

It's time you found some new friends. This friend is not the type of person you want as a friend, and have said that in so many words. There are lots of people, I am sure, who would love to have you as a friend. This one is causing you heartache, and it's not worth it.

[dontknownuthin]

I applaud your decision to sever ties with this friend. If she doesn't care that you find her behavior disgusting, that tells you something about how much she values your friendship. She doesn't care how she treat people, which for me, would be a deal breaker for any friend of mine.