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    Jan 29, 2013, 12:42 PM
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    Me and my ex were together for 6 years we had many bumps in the road and four years ago I gave birth to our beautiful daughter. Jan of 2012 we separated because of the lack of communication. In May I met a wonderful man and I fell in love with him. We also had are bumps but I let him go last month because I felt feelings again for my ex, I didn't want to lead him on and because of the fact we have a child together I feel that he is the best thing in a relationship I do love him very much.

    But now I'm not sure what to do I have a lot of thoughts about this great man that I let go the way he treated me like I was his everything he loves me very much and I'm not sure that its going to be too easy for him to move on. I do not want to hurt either man but I also don't want to be selfish. I just can't control the emotions I have for the two.

    When I'm with my baby's dad all I can think about is the other man. And when I'm with the other man all I can think about is my baby's dad I am stuck between a rock and a hard place. All I want to be is happy I'm just not sure how to be that anymore. Any advise? Serious advise please!
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    Jan 29, 2013, 01:48 PM
    Instead of going back and forth, resolve the relationship with the baby daddy one way, or another before looking for happiness elsewhere.

    Your real issue though is the idea that you need a man to love you, or be in a relationship to be happy, and that's the confusion. Who makes you happy? They both have good points but which one to let go? Which one to be faithful too.

    Handle your business at home and then see what happens next. That does mean leaving the other guy alone until you do, or realize that a single person makes them self happy, and tell them both that you date whomever you want, no strings attached to any one.

    You have options, but they all require some honesty.

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