[Farhaharoon]

I am married, I fulfil all my mothers needs in food, house, bills and even car and necessary things she needs and on top I give her monthly allowance as well for her personal use and savings.. Only one month I was not able to provide her the money she was very angry with me and said it was her righteous money cause she raised me.. Please advise how is thus correct ? Are we obligated to give money to our mother every month? Even though we fulfil everything?

[Wondergirl]

Has her husband died or left her?

[Farhaharoon]

They are divorced, me and my sister take all the responsibility plus she lives a wonderful life n has money as well in her account, we never left her with any needs, I just don't want her bad mouthing me just because I could not give her money once.

[Farhaharoon]

She even wants me to share with her all my financial status which is personal I am married n if I am to share such things it will be my husband

[Wondergirl]

If she has money enough of her own, why are you contributing?

[joypulv]

You asked this under Islam. I don't know Islamic law, but I am sure that even custom where you are, where children are expected to make sure parents don't go without what they need, doesn't mean they get to take more than they need. Plus she is divorced, not widowed! I'm sure her ex is giving her money.
Don't worry about who says bad things about you. Tell her you are cutting way back so that YOU can plan a future with your husband. If she says horrible things? Cut her off completely.

[Farhaharoon]

If she has money enough of her own, why are you contributing?

As her children we want her to be happy and have everything she desires, we give her monthly allowance but now she made it look like if we miss a month it's a big sin

[joypulv]

Did your parents give a large dowry when you married?
Although there are Muslims on this site, I don't see any at the moment. What country are you in?

[Wondergirl]

As her children we want her to be happy and have everything she desires, we give her monthly allowance but now she made it look like if we miss a month it's a big sin

Would she be happy and well taken care of without your financial contribution? Why are you giving her money in the first place if she is doing well? I hate to say this, but it sounds like she is getting greedy.

[Farhaharoon]

Would she be happy and well taken care of without your financial contribution? Why are you giving her money in the first place if she is doing well? I hate to say this, but it sounds like she is getting greedy.

That's a fact, she is getting greedy cause she has money but I just don't like it when he says words to me like something bad will happen to me cause I'm not giving her money, wallah haraam

[Wondergirl]

I'm Christian, not Muslim, but I cannot imagine He would allow something bad to happen to you if you don't feed this woman's greed and continue to give her money and access to your accounts. That sounds like a human demand, not Allah's rule. The Quran speaks of children always giving love and kindness and devotion to parents, but doesn't say a child must give unneeded money and open bank accounts to parents.

[Farhaharoon]

I'm Christian, not Muslim, but I cannot imagine He would allow something bad to happen to you if you don't feed this woman's greed and continue to give her money and access to your accounts. That sounds like a human demand, not Allah's rule. The Quran speaks of children always giving love and kindness and devotion to parents, but doesn't say a child must give unneeded money and open bank accounts to parents.

You are right sister, I have shared everything with her even my accounts are joint with her but still, I guess I just have to stop all this from now.. Thank you all for your thoughts it means a lot