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    Jan 23, 2013, 06:26 PM
    Foot fetish?
    Okay. So my man and I have been together for about 2 years now and we just got engaged about a month ago. Well... I'll love him no matter what of course, but there's a little bit of a problem. He wants to have sex with my feet? I did it for him once, but in the middle of it I got super creeped out and had to stop.

    He says he just wanted to try it and that it's not his thing, but I don't believe that. I think he just saw that I was creeped out by it and doesn't want me to know if he is into that.

    I don't know what I'm trying to get advice on, but are these kind of things normal? I mean, I just don't understand lol
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    Jan 23, 2013, 06:33 PM
    Fetishes are perfectly normal.
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    Jan 24, 2013, 08:24 AM
    All told this is a relatively simple one too. Considering the vast number of fetishes out there, a foot fetish is almost normal. Google Pony Play, for example. There is nothing wrong with any of this either.

    The question is, what crept you out about that encounter?
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    Jan 24, 2013, 09:00 AM
    Actually a normal "fetish" in fact I feet is about the most common one. See no issue to be freaked out by it, men rubbing feet, back and chest are done all the time.
    If he wants it now and again, as long as he takes time to please you, I don't see an issue.

    It it just really bothers you, and he really likes it, one may want to consider the relationship to see if this will cause too much issues.

    But as for as fethishes go, this is nothing.
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    Jan 24, 2013, 09:26 AM
    Okay this might be just my issue but I hate feet. And being a court sports person I don't ever let anyone see my feet. I won't touch Adam's feet. GROSS!
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    Jan 24, 2013, 09:57 AM
    Feet are actually one of the areas where people get sexually excited fairly easy. Feet massage is one of the basic foreplay starts.

    And if you are married having sex, normally they are going to see your feet and a whole lot more.
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    Jan 24, 2013, 09:58 AM
    That's why I said it was my issue. I hate feet.
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    Jan 24, 2013, 10:57 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by CravenMorhead View Post
    All told this is a relatively simple one too. Considering the vast number of fetishes out there, a foot fetish is almost normal. Google Pony Play, for example. There is nothing wrong with any of this either.

    The question is, what crept you out about that encounter?
    Ok... so I HAD to look up pony play, because I had never heard of that until I read your post...

    ... interesting...

    A lover of mine had a "plastic" fetish in the bedroom... Even more interesting... Lol
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    Jan 24, 2013, 01:01 PM
    My fetish is a clean house. I know, weird, but true. :)
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    Jan 24, 2013, 01:32 PM
    Long term couples, and short term should be free to explore and experiment with sexuality. Maybe he did back off when you were creeped out, but that's not a bad thing as long as you know why you were creeped out, and can express that to your partner.

    Maybe a compromise can be found that DOESN'T creep you out.
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    Jan 24, 2013, 01:39 PM
    Me thinks I might be a prude!!
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    Jan 24, 2013, 02:15 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Enigma1999 View Post
    Ok.....so I HAD to look up pony play, because I had never heard of that until I read your post....

    ....interesting....

    A lover of mine had a "plastic" fetish in the bedroom.... Even more interesting.... Lol
    The truest sign that a society has reach decadence is how creative we are in bed room. And we are very creative.

    Disturbingly creative.

    The next time you see one of your coworkes, just think, they could have a diaper/baby fetish (I forget the name) where they need to roleplay out being a baby. Adult diapers to the nth degree.

    What needs to be kept in mind is that a person's sexual life cannot be defined by their or their partners fetish. In this case, he can't just get off on your feet. There has to be a balance. Sometimes he gets the feet other times you get the c**k. I guess what I am trying to say is that you both need to be considerate to each other's needs.

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