[imNO1]

Hi everyone.. Im J and I'm gay. I have been with a guy for the past 3 months and we have done lot of things together. I'm deeply in love with that guy. We had sex several times and really I love him a lot. The first difference between us is that we have 11 years of age difference. He is elder than me. Several times I tell him about my feelings but he just say "hmm".. What I always wait in return is a "love u too".. but I never get it back. Sometimes when I explain to him much about my need of being told "i love you", he may reply me back but then I have to wait another pack of days to get another. He always explain me that I have lot to live and that relationships takes time to be founded and yes, I agree but it will be the 4tth months soon ; I know I love him a lot and I trust him deeply.. isn't it a relationship?. He has done lot for me till now. For that I completely agree. He has taken many risk with his family to take me to his house and has tried a lot to please me but I'm in need of a love message.. the last time I told him that I'm in need of comforrt message, he just told me that when he sees me, he is joyful and he is enlightened.. What should I do? Is it me the problem?.

[44loo]

It sounds like you are feeling insecure about the relationship because he doesn't tell you his feelings. Having said that you have also explained how much he has done for you and that he has told you his feelings but only when you have questioned him about it. It sounds to me like you already know how he feels through his actions but for some reason need it confirming. Not only do you need this confirmation but you need it regularly and because this is not happening it is causing you to doubt your relationship. I wonder if this lack of communication makes you feel insecure due to.previous experiences? If it is then you need to try and move past it and accept your current partner is just.not the talking type. I myself find it hard to tell people I love them as it makes me feel vulnerable but this does not mean I don't love them, maybe your partner is the same. Hope this helps