[scarecrow95]

It's kind of a difficult situation because he is one of my close friend's ex boyfriends, but they ended it almost two years ago. I never had romantic feelings for him, but then one night when we were at a party together we hooked up. We then hooked up at a few other parties and started seeing each other. I thought I liked him, but now I'm not sure if I just felt that way because he liked me. At first it was fine and he made me laugh and stuff and we would have fun when we hung out, but now sometimes I don't even want him to kiss me or hold me or anything. The problem is, I would feel awful if I broke up with him not only because I know how much he likes me, but also because I jeopardized my friendship with my close friend who used to go out with him, and I don't want that to be all for nothing. Is it wrong for me to continue seeing him even though I'm not sure if I still like him, or should I break up with him and just face the consequences?

[dontknownuthin]

The point of dating is to figure out whether you're compatible with the other person. You're not meant to know before you date them. So, you've been dating him and you're not feeling it, so the solution is to stop dating him.

As for the nonsense with your friend, forget about it. Dating a guy you're not into because he used to date your friend and the friend got mad that you dated him... it's so ridiculous I can barely follow it. A failed dating relationship is never "for nothing" unless you are silly about it. It's a learning experience - if you're smart, you'll give some thought to what you did and didn't like about this boy. You'll also think long and hard about whether it was worth dating a guy in a situation that would create drama with your friends. Next time, remind yourself of your past experiences before you decide to start dating someone new.

What would be "for nothing" would be dating a guy you're not into. The point of dating is to weed through the wrong people and find the right one to one day marry. You really want to waste your time dating the wrong guy, wasting his time, too? The only kind and right thing to do is to cut the guy loose once you identify that he's not the right guy for you, so both of you can move on in your search for the right relationship.

[Homegirl 50]

Continuing to see this guy for those reasons is lame. You dated him and found out you don't like him that much. Now break up. That is what dating is.