[justrantinghere]

I am 18 years old, and just about to graduate. I started dating this really sweet guy, and at first everything was great. Then, around 4-5 months into our relationship, he became extremely jealous. He acted like I was going to jump some random guy, and even worse he would made hurtful comments to me. I asked him to stop, and he toned it down. Anyway.. For a long time all we did was fight.. I could feel myself slowly losing my feelings for him. I tried to break up with him, but he begged and pleaded, so I gave him another chance. A few days ago I finally broke it off. We were together 9 months. I feel awful that he is hurting, but he hurt me a lot, and our relationship was unhealthy. I feel if we want a healthy relationship, that we both need to mature, on our own. But any time I talk to him, he begs and tries to guilt me into hetting back with him. He thinks I'm "The one" but I am also his first serious girlfriend.

More than anything I just need support ant advice.. Please?

[J_9]

You did the right thing. What you witnessed was only the beginning of a life of abuse.

While mature relationships go through periods of discussions, I don't like the word arguments, immature relationships are filled with jealousy and control issues.

Yes, it hurts, and that's natural and normal. You did nothing wrong other than protect yourself.

The best thing you can do now is to go complete No Contact with him so that you can heal on a healthy level.