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16willdn · Jan 3, 2013, 04:57 PM

I am a freshman and I like a junior. How do I know if the guy likes me back because he talks to this senior chick? But he also talks to me so how do I know if he likes me?

Homegirl 50 · Jan 3, 2013, 08:07 PM

He may like you but only as a friend. Unless he spends a lot of time talking to you he probably does not like you the way you want.

16willdn · Jan 7, 2013, 05:29 PM

Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

He may like you but only as a friend. Unless he spends a lot of time talking to you he probably does not like you the way you want.

Then what should I do because I like him should I just forget about him and put him in the back of my head or what well like we danced to the song called "Your Everything"by Kieth Urban at homecoming but after we danced I gave him a hug and said thank you for the dance and he smiled and said your welcome but after that he hasn't talked to me or smiled at me or anything so should I just forget about him and try to find someone new

Homegirl 50 · Jan 7, 2013, 07:40 PM

Yes. He obviously does not like you the way you like him.

16willdn · Jan 8, 2013, 07:57 AM

Then should I just try to find someone new

Homegirl 50 · Jan 8, 2013, 10:12 AM

You should just try and find friends. You're what 14? You don't need a boyfriend at this point. Make lots of friends, boy as well as girls.

16willdn · Jan 8, 2013, 10:34 AM

How can I make a lot of friends when I am not popular and yes I am 14 then why does everyone else seem to be happy with there boyfriend and everything and it seems like every one has boyfriend besides me is that wrong?? And I really only have 2 close friends

Homegirl 50 · Jan 8, 2013, 11:02 AM

Not everyone is happy or has a boyfriend. It only seems that way to you. You are only 14. You have plenty of time for boyfriends.

16willdn · Jan 8, 2013, 11:07 AM

OK well do you think that I should go to the winter homecoming that is on January 19th by myself or should I ask a friend to go with me

Homegirl 50 · Jan 8, 2013, 01:48 PM

Either is fine. The more you get out the better your chances of making friends

16willdn · Jan 8, 2013, 03:23 PM

Okay I guess I will go but isn't homecoming about dancing with a date and if I go by myself I won't have anyone to dance with will I

16willdn · Jan 8, 2013, 03:57 PM

Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Either is fine. The more you get out the better your chances of making friends

OK

Homegirl 50 · Jan 8, 2013, 03:59 PM

There are girls that go to dances with other girls all the time. Even Homecoming. You can go with a guy or a girl.
When my god-daughter went to Homecoming she went with three other girls.

Alty · Jan 8, 2013, 04:04 PM

There will be guys going solo too, and those are the guys you dance with.

You're really young. My son is 14, and he's never had a girlfriend, he knows he's not ready for that, and frankly, he's having too much fun hanging out with his buddies, and getting to know people. Why settle for one person when there are literally hundreds of people to just be friends with?

You may think that everyone has a boyfriend or a girlfriend, but they really don't. Even if they are "dating" at 14 it's just hanging out, it's not really dating, they just call it that.

So go out, have fun, and stop worrying too much about having a boyfriend. Trust me, none of the "couples" that are together right now in your age group, will be together in a year. Wait and see.

16willdn · Jan 8, 2013, 04:04 PM

Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

There are girls that go to dances with other girls all the time. Even Homecoming. You can go with a guy or a girl.
When my god-daughter went to Homecoming she went with three other girls.

Okay but my best friend is going with a guy so I will feel out cased because everybody will be dancing won't they and I won't be and my other friends aren't going so wouldn't I be an out cast

16willdn · Jan 8, 2013, 04:09 PM

Originally Posted by Alty

There will be guys going solo too, and those are the guys you dance with.

You're really young. My son is 14, and he's never had a girlfriend, he knows he's not ready for that, and frankly, he's having too much fun hanging out with his buddies, and getting to know people. Why settle for one person when there are literally hundreds of people to just be friends with?

You may think that everyone has a boyfriend or a girlfriend, but they really don't. Even if they are "dating" at 14 it's just hanging out, it's not really dating, they just call it that.

So go out, have fun, and stop worrying too much about having a boyfriend. Trust me, none of the "couples" that are together right now in your age group, will be together in a year. Wait and see.

Okay thanks but how do you no that there will be solo guys there and what do I do if I don't like them and one asks me to dance or something

Alty · Jan 8, 2013, 04:14 PM

Originally Posted by 16willdn

okay thanks but how do you no that there will be solo guys there and what do i do if i don't like them and one asks me to dance or something

Of course there will be solo guys there. Do you really think they all found dates? If you don't want to dance with those that ask you, then graciously say "no thank you, but thanks for asking" and hope that someone that you do like, does ask you.

Even if you don't dance, it will be fun if you stop being so paranoid about what everyone else is doing. Just go because you want to go, and who cares what everyone else is doing?

Homegirl 50 · Jan 8, 2013, 05:29 PM

My goodness you say you are not popular but you're worrying about the possibility of someone you may not like asking you to dance. He's asking you to dance not date.
If you don't want to dance, you graciously say no.
There are plenty of people who will go and not have dates. Probably more guys than girls.
You go and talk to people maybe dance and just have fun.

dontknownuthin · Jan 8, 2013, 05:33 PM

I don't think it's unusual for a Junior guy to date a Freshman girl at all. At some schools there's a stigma but from talking to my son and his friends, it's perfectly fine at their school.

I would say that, regarding the dance, either go with a boy you have feelings for, or go with a group of friends and without a date. Going on a date-but-not-really with a guy you think of as just a friend is awkward. Unless the guy has a shot with you, go with a group of kids. If the junior boy likes you and you like him and he asks, go with him.

16willdn · Jan 8, 2013, 06:08 PM

Okay I will go and just have fun but okay there is this senior kid that goes to my youth group and he talks to me all of the time and like he sits by me and everything and he is a really nice guy so should I ask him to go to homecoming with me as friends or should I wait and see if he will ask me