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    Dec 28, 2012, 07:27 PM
    Love life.
    I am 12 and I have a 17 year old head over hills for me! We have known each other for the last 10 years! We hang out every weekend and he has never tried to try anything on me! He is always there when know one else is... But, my parents say they don't care if we date! As long as he don't try sex or any other thing out of the way... I'm scared to say yes because we might not be together for long and then that mess up our friendship! So I think we should just take it step by step and maybe see what happens when I become a teen! What do you guys think?
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    Dec 28, 2012, 07:34 PM
    I think that a 17 year old that sees a 12 year old as a potential girlfriend has mental issues to deal with. At 17 he should be beyond you as far as his interests and such. I can't see anything that he would have in common with you for a dating level... unless, like I said, he has issues. I would just tell him you need to be friends and nothing more.
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    Dec 28, 2012, 07:57 PM
    Is it wrong to tell a guy you're not interested for a relationship with anyone at the time and then his friend asked you out and you said yes?

    I just had a 17 year old ask me out again and I said yes! He wouldn't stop until I gave him a yes or no! So I said yes! Grr... What should I do?
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    Dec 28, 2012, 08:30 PM
    You are single and can date whom ever you want.
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    Dec 28, 2012, 08:36 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    You are single and can date whom ever you want.
    I am 12 though! I'm scared because my step-dad!
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    Dec 28, 2012, 08:44 PM
    Forget my advice as I had no idea your age or your previous questions which have been merged to give a complete background to your question.

    But, my parents say they don't care if we date!
    I am 12 though! I'm scared because my step-dad!
    My advice is don't date anyone. 12 is a bit young and at that age nothing but casual friends. No reasonable adult would ever let their 12 year old daughter date a 17 year old. I would have him under a jail if he showed his face around my 12 year old.
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    Dec 28, 2012, 08:52 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    Forget my advice as I had no idea your age or your previous questions which have been merged to give a complete background to your question.





    My advice is don't date anyone. 12 is a bit young and at that age nothing but casual friends. No reasonable adult would ever let their 12 year old daughter date a 17 year old. I would have him under a jail if he showed his face around my 12 year old.
    Thanks! The thing is I have known him for the last 10 years! His parents are family friends! It's just I have moved from lieving next door to him to 3 hours away! Our friendship means more then my relationship with my brother or sisters because my brother is my step-brother and my sisters have nothing to do with me! I am kind of upset because like I said we are basically Dating know and if I brake up with him what will happen? But his sister told me if he is a TRUE friend he will understand on why I can't date him!
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    Dec 28, 2012, 09:05 PM
    It is pretty sick for a 17 year old boy to want to date a 12 year old. It appears you're not even ready to date and the fact that he pressured you is a big red flag.
    You tell him you are not ready to date and you need to tell your parents he pressured you. There is no way I would let my 12 year old date, let alone a 17 year old.
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    Dec 28, 2012, 09:11 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Homegirl 50 View Post
    It is pretty sick for a 17 year old boy to want to date a 12 year old. It appears you're not even ready to date and the fact that he pressured you is a big red flag.
    You tell him you are not ready to date and you need to tell your parents he pressured you. There is no way I would let my 12 year old date, let alone a 17 year old.
    My mom was like I am going to talk to his mom and dad! I was like I could have done that! I just told him I didn't want this because I am way to young and he was like I am so sorry if I pressured you into this... I understand were your coming from so in the morning lets act like nothing happened and lets go back to our goofy weird friendship(IN MEANINGS WE GET INTO STUPID THINGS AND DO STUPID STUFF!) So hopefuly he want try anything else!
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    Dec 28, 2012, 09:33 PM
    So when did you have this conversation with your mom and him? That was quick
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    Dec 28, 2012, 09:34 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Homegirl 50 View Post
    So when did you have this conversation with your mom and him? That was quick
    I texted my mom and I am at his house because I am staying with his sister! Also we skateboard so we are fixing to leave to go to the skate ring!
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    Dec 28, 2012, 09:43 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by countrygalsrt View Post
    I texted my mom and I am at his house because I am stayin with his sister! Also we skateboard so we are fixing to leave to go to the skate ring!
    You are going skateboarding now? You must be in Australia?
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    Dec 28, 2012, 09:48 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    You are going skateboarding now? You must be in Australia?
    Yes I am going now! And know I don't live in Australia I live in USA!
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    #14

    Dec 28, 2012, 09:59 PM
    It's bedtime!
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    Dec 28, 2012, 10:02 PM
    Also we skateboard so we are fixing to leave to go to the skate ring!
    At 11:00? Or is it midnight there?

    Someone is telling tall tales here.
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    Dec 28, 2012, 10:04 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by J_9 View Post
    At 11:00? Or is it midnight there?

    Someone is telling tall tales here.
    It's midnight here! Our skate ring is indoors so it don't matter!
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    Dec 28, 2012, 10:07 PM
    These parents are actually letting you go skateboarding at midnight? Not very good parents are they?
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    Dec 28, 2012, 10:08 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by J_9 View Post
    These parents are actually letting you go skateboarding at midnight? Not very good parents are they?
    They don't care the skate ring is like 2 minutes from were we staying!!
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    #19

    Dec 29, 2012, 07:35 AM
    On your other post you said your mom saw all of this, now you're saying you and your mom are texting. I don't believe any of this. I think you may have a crush on this 17 year old and he probably does not know you exist or you are bored
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    Dec 29, 2012, 07:38 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Homegirl 50 View Post
    On your other post you said your mom saw all of this, now you're saying you and your mom are texting. I don't believe any of this. I think you may have a crush on this 17 year old and he probably does not know you exits or you are bored
    She saw it because she found out I had an account and came downstairs after I texted her that! I was to lazy to go up stairs so I texted her!

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