[martha leslie]

Hello, my name is martha and I'm 19 years old, I go to college, have a car, a job my life is pretty good right now. But I have been through a lot over the years especially with these guys I been talking to and on and off with. Okay There's this guy name Adam I met 2 years ago, we meet on Facebook and the connection clicked right away, we first went out to eat and it started amazing, he was everything I wanted in a guy sweet, nice, great personality, etc. Then it went to that point that he didn't have a job, no money, no house and he was 20 years old. Honestly I hated it becus I felt like I was the one doing everything! After 6months of being together I broke up with him... A month or two later my friend introduce me to this guy name Jay I thought he was cute, but knew I wouldn't have a chance with him. After that we were friend on Facebook and he message me saying how I was cute and he wanted to talk to me so I gave him my number and we were on the phone forever! The connection clicked when I started getting to know him more and after that I been going over to his house every night, I was really happy being with him because I acally felt like I found my other half... After that Jay has met my family, I met his, he went to my graduation as well as my prom. It couldn't be any better then this. Thenn... besides my prom we didn't end up going, instead I was all about drinking and partying & having fun with a group of friends since it was our prom night. &i told him to come along. So the whole time we pretended that we were going to prom I got dressed up so did he, just because I didn't want to tell my parents we weren't going. While we were about to leave my mom told Jay(My boyfriend) to becarful and take care of me and Don't drink and drive he said I won't your daughter will be okay. When we left he kept telling me how he has a Really bad feeling about this and I keep ignoring him and say were going to have fun tonight dot worry, At first he just wanted to buy a couple of drinks and rent a hotel, not party... I ignored him. Later that night we were with friends, partying having a good night. We went to a mexican restaurant to eat, When we left it was 3am and we just barly dropped my friends off &i was drunk and passed out on the passenger seat, & jay was the one driving, Out of nowhere I started screaming and he lost control and crashed my new car. I got out quicky and realized we almost lost our lifes, I was crying and didn't know what to to, jay got out and he was bleeding everywhere he wanted me to go with him and leave before the cops come because he had a warrant and didn't want me to see him go to jail. I was screaming at him for what he didn't and I was not about to leave my car, so he left to get help and I ended up at the hospital. The next day, He came by with scratches and wonds and a broken arm. Thank god I was alive and well just minor bruses and scratches. But he came by to talk to my mom & dad to apologize. Ater that eveything went by okay, we were happy and try to make the best of it. On my graduation night was the first night he came to sleep over. After that he been sleeping over with out my parents pamission every night. One night we made a lot of noise and my dad happen to walk in, And literally jay and my dad were fist fighting. And right then my family HATED jay with crashing my car on top of that having them think it was his fault for him to come over even though he really didn't want to because of my dad. After that Everything between us wasent the same. We argued more, fight, scream everyday was either arguing or screaming. Our relationship was not healthy. After six months he hasent paid a DIME to me since he got my car towed, Literally my car was gone :( AND he couldn't find a job. I couldn't be with him and be happy, It was just not the same. So I broke up with him. And ended up going back to Adam. With adam he cared, a lot He buys me food, pays my gas, treats me the way a girl can be treated. But it wasent the same... I mean adam was amazing but all the feelings I had for him were gone I wasent happy with him like I use to... for some reason even though me and jay been through a lot I still wanted it to make it work. So after 2 months went by I message him and we started talking on the phone and everything after that he met up and started talking he finally has a job that he gets paid 11 an hours has an apartment. To me he was beginning to mature, and all my feelings for him begain to grow... but still today after 7 months hasent paid me back, even though he tells me he is and says he's saving up, I mean I know its my fault but he was behind the wheels I don't know what to do and on top of that having adam still texting me saying I miss you and will do anything to get you back made me want to give a 2nd chance with him. I been through A LOT, but with this experience made me become who I am today. Bt I don't want to be alone, I want to settle down with the right guy and be happy just stuck between these 2 guys I want to be with the RIGHT guy and acally spend my life with him. I don't know what to do Any Advice or help?

[Fr_Chuck]

Yes a man who had awarrant , lies to your parents,drives drunk,won't pay debt, wants you for sex, I can see where he appeal to yoj

[martha leslie]

yes a man who had awarrant , lies to your parents,drives drunk,wont pay debt, wants you for sex, I can see where he appeal to yoj

So your saying its best not to be with him, even though he's paying me back, paying off his warrents, just someone who's beginning to matrue and be a better person. But I don't know it dose make a little sense :(