[rvbernier]

I’m a senior in high school, and I’ve never had a boyfriend, and the last time I was asked out was in 6th grade. (Moving on with the sob story)
There is this senior guy in my class that I’m interested in.
Now, this wasn’t a “love at first sight” thing. In fact, I didn’t even notice him at first. The class we’re in isn’t exactly an “Honors” class, if you know what I mean, so I was kind of uncomfortable and just trying not to draw unwanted attention to myself.
But then, after a couple of weeks, he told me that my make-up was pretty one day. I was completely caught off guard, so I kind of just mumbled a thanks. I barely get complimented by people, and I’d never even heard of guys saying that to girls, let alone to me. So this really surprised me. So I started paying more attention to him.
I noticed that he would often turn around to look at me. I sat behind him and in another row, so I could see him out of the corner of my eye easily and he couldn’t tell I could see him. I wasn’t really sure what to do, since I have no experience in this.
After a while I tried looking into his eyes then shyly looking away. You know, let him know I’m interested. He compliments me every once in a while, and I even asked him to join me in this choir thing (not really a date, since he comes up to sing with me, but a huge step for me (he said yes btw)) And it went great. He came and he was dressed all nice (my friends approved and said he was one of the best dressed there and that he looked awesome!) And he talked to my parents and my mom liked him, said he had an awesome smile, which he does. He hugged me at the end of the night, and not just a catch and release hug, there was a small squeeze in there. So yeah, that was nice. :)
But here’s my problem. He does these things, and then once I notice him, it’s almost as if he is ignoring me. I moved up a seat when someone left our class, so I’m next to him, so it’s harder to tell if he’s looking at me. But I think he does sometimes.
But still, I don’t know what’s up now. I’m kind of confused.
Yet every time I think I’ve lost him, he does or says something to rekindle my hope.
So, does he like me? Or is it all in my head?
And if he does, what should I do?
Btw, he’s a football player and he’s taller than me (I like tall) Don’t know why I provided that, but maybe it would help determine if it’s just normal jock behavior or if he’s actually interested in me.
And again, I have no experience, and I’m really shy, and often times when I talk to him my words come out a little flustered. I get my message out, I just get embarrassed and blush a lot. But anyway, I’m shy and have no experience, so how do I get let him know I’m interested in him?
Oh, and I have started talking to him a bit. Very recently I started saying “Hi” everyday, and asking how his day was. It’s an improvement, but it doesn’t make much conversation. But still, it’s talking. I always try and think of something to talk about, since I’m afraid of having awkward silence, so if anyone has any suggestions on easy topics that keep going, I would gladly take them.

[Homegirl 50]

It sounds like me may like you. Get to know him better by speaking to him. Maybe ask him what his favorite movie is, or what he's doing over Christmas break, anything to start a conversation.

[dontknownuthin]

Well, you could just continue to encourage him - smile at him, initiate conversation. Or you could come up with something else to invite him to and see how that goes. If you don't want to invite him on a one on one date, maybe you could invite him out with you and your friends. He might be doing the attentive/ignoring thing because he's not clear if you like him.

And since you're in high school, you can also use the network of friends - have a friend find out if he likes you. Personally though, I preffer a more direct and personal approachc.

[rvbernier]

I have told a few people who know him that I like him, so I'm kind of hoping it will get back to him, but I don't know if that's happening. I'm too shy and scared to tell him straight out. I'm kind of afraid of rejection, even though he's a super nice guy. I really hope that he'll ask me to something, but I don't know. I won't be seeing him for much longer, which I'm dreading, but I will try and take your advice and keep doing what I'm doing.

[dontknownuthin]

Well, you don't have to profess your feelings - just invite him somewhere. Like have friends over to make pizzas or something and ask if he'd like to come. Or plan to go to a movie with a few people on a Friday evening and ask if he'd like to go. Maybe if you break the ice (someone has to if you're both shy) he'll do the asking next time.

[momentummm]

You're basing too much of this off what you think is the ideal boy, or ideal relationship, or the ideal crush. Just calm down and be you! The person you were when you weren't trying is the person he first noticed, so just be you!

I'm a guy, only a couple years out of high school. Trust me, the things you said he did show that he's got some interest in you. Be honest with him, and be forward. Ask him to get coffee after school (or whatever you do) next time there's a big assignment so you guys "can work on it together" that will lead to you exchanging numbers... and well... the rest is in your hands. Just do you! Good luck!

[dontknownuthin]

That's great advice, momentummm - I'm old enough to be this young lady's mother so have dated for a while! I've found that the most significant, rewarding relationships I had over the years began when I wasn't trying to impress anyone or worrying about what they thought of me. One of the best relationships I ever had began when I was having breakfast in a coffee shop on vacation with my sister and we were both laughing. We looked like hell - had just rolled out of bed and into our clothes from the day before, no makeup, hair not done. The guy noticed that I was funny and liked my laugh. He loved that I was willing to go in public without spending an hour getting ready first. I met another college boyfriend when I stopped in a pub with two of my roomates on a Saturday afternoon. We had been caught in a storm and were soaked. The bartender had an apartment upstairs and brought towels, which we proceeded to wear on our heads while we played pool. Again, some really great guys thought we were hilarious and loved that we stayed out and had fun instead of running home to perfect our outfits. I'm not suggesting that you do these things, just saying that I was very much myself at these times because, while I do make an effort with my appearance and so on, I don't take myself all that seriously and it is very much my nature to make the best of situations and laugh rather than getting upset that my hair got messed up. My confidence is not a constant and it isn't for most people. When I'm with my friends though, I am so relaxed and at ease, I am confident. When I am trying to make a certain impression - that's when I start getting nervous and making a bad impression!

This guy likes who you are and he doesn't want you to be something different. You're both shy so someone has to take the initiative, so you need to invite him to do something. Once he gets the message that you like him enough to invite him, he'll feel more comfortable taking the next step.

Just don't think you need to come up with a big game or start dressing differently or anything - he likes who you are, so stay who you are.

[rvbernier]

I'm definitely not changing myself. I'm dressing a bit nicer most of the time, but I do wear a hoodie sometimes, but I always have make-up on, cause that's what he complimented me on.
My real problem is that my window of opportunity is closing. I won't have a class with him after January, and we have christmas break in between those few weeks left. And I'll be visiting family far away so I won't see him over break. So yeah, not much time left.
I really need some topics that we can talk about. I want to talk to him more often, I just don't know what to talk about. And I don't want to end conversations awkwardly. I really need some easy topics to talk about that keep going. If you have any ideas, let me know. I could really use those.
I really hope this works out, and I appreciate all the advice. This would all be so simple if I wasn't so afraid of rejection! But alas, I am only human.
Thanks for the help! I hope you'll have some awesome ideas for conversations!

[Homegirl 50]

Ask him what he will be doing over Christmas break, let the converstion go from there.

[rvbernier]

I actually just did that today. It went well, I told him where I was going, which is somewhere like 40 degree colder than where we currently are, so we had a good laugh. That was good, but yeah, I've already used that already.
But thanks for the suggestion! I would love to hear some more!

[Homegirl 50]

You can exchange phone numbers if you haven't already and then say you can text and send pictures of your break.

[rvbernier]

You can exchange phone numbers if you havent already and then say you can text and send pictures of your break.

I have his number, but again, I have no experience, so I only text him when I need to or something, and usually my best friend guides me, and I can't send pictures on my phone, so that doesn't work. But thanks for the suggestion! I will definitely post stuff while I'm gone for break, and I'll probably text him Merry Christmas and Happy New Years and stuff, but other than that, don't know what to do. But thanks for the suggestion!
Still need some topics to talk to him about that are easy and can keep going! But thanks so much to everyone for all the advice so far! I really appreciate it.

[rvbernier]

I really like this guy, and I used to have a class with him, but I don't anymore. He 's only got 2 classes in the morning, so I only have before school and about 7 minutes between classes to talk to him. I really really like him, and I want us to be more than friends, but I don't know what to do. I have no experience, and I can be really shy. I've talked to him before, and I even tried asking him out the very last day we had class together. I asked if he wanted to see a movie with me that weekend, but he couldn't because he would be out of town. It wasn't a yes, but it wasn't a no either.
Now, I want to try and hang out with him or get a date with him sometime, but it's harder since I don't have class with him anymore.
Should I just walk up to him in the halls and start conversation? What should we talk about? How long should I wait before I try and ask him out to a movie or something again?
Details about him: He has a great smile, he played football, he already knows what he wants to be and what college he's going to (We are both seniors in high school) He's currently single, I know what music he's into and recently got into Josh Abbott Band so that we could possible have something to talk about, and I have his number.
I could really use some conversation topics and just overall tips on how to get him to like me and when I should ask him out, but maybe make it seem neutral so I don't scare him off. And since the only time I will be able to see him is between classes, asking him out without his friends being near is going to be difficult, if not impossible.
Please help me out! I really don't want to let this one go by without at least trying!
Also, texting tips/ dos and don'ts would be helpful since I don't know what to do about that either. He never texts me first, mostly cause I don't think he thinks of me often, the only reason I have his number is because I invited him to a choir concert and I needed to give him the address. So how and when I should text him and what I should and shouldn't do would be helpful.
I can't wait to hear your helpful suggestions!

[Homegirl 50]

You have already asked him out once and he would have gone.Start speaking to him in the hall, text him a hello, see how that goes and ask him out again.

[rvbernier]

You have already asked him out once and he would have gone.Start speaking to him in the hall, text him a hello, see how that goes and ask him out again.

Okay, I will talk to him in the halls, but what should I text him? I don't want to seem annoying or not know what to text about and be awkward.

[rvbernier]

I really like this guy, and I used to have a class with him, but I don't anymore. He 's only got 2 classes in the morning, so I only have before school and about 7 minutes between classes to talk to him. I really really like him, and I want us to be more than friends, but I don't know what to do. I have no experience, and I can be really shy. I've talked to him before, and I even tried asking him out the very last day we had class together. I asked if he wanted to see a movie with me that weekend, but he couldn't because he would be out of town. It wasn't a yes, but it wasn't a no either.

Now, I want to try and hang out with him or get a date with him sometime, but it's harder since I don't have class with him anymore.

Should I just walk up to him in the halls and start conversation? What should we talk about? How long should I wait before I try and ask him out to a movie or something again?

Details about him: He has a great smile, he played football, he already knows what he wants to be and what college he's going to (We are both seniors in high school) He's currently single, I know what music he's into and recently got into Josh Abbott Band so that we could possible have something to talk about, and I have his number.

I could really use some conversation topics and just overall tips on how to get him to like me and when I should ask him out, but maybe make it seem neutral so I don't scare him off. And since the only time I will be able to see him is between classes, asking him out without his friends being near is going to be difficult, if not impossible.

Please help me out! I really don't want to let this one go by without at least trying!

Also, texting tips/ dos and don'ts would be helpful since I don't know what to do about that either. He never texts me first, mostly cause I don't think he thinks of me often, the only reason I have his number is because I invited him to a choir concert and I needed to give him the address. So how and when I should text him and what I should and shouldn't do would be helpful.

I can't wait to hear your helpful suggestions!

[JARIXA]

Well, if you have his # technically you can talk to him on your phone. Unless you want to tell him face to face!! :p

[rvbernier]

well, if you have his # technically you can talk to him on your phone. unless you want to tell him face to face!!! :p

Yeah, I'd much rather talk to him face to face.

[Homegirl 50]

Just say "hello, what are you up to?"

[rvbernier]

Just say "hello, what are you up to?"

Okay, I will sometimes. Thanks for the advice.