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mzzjenz1 · Nov 28, 2012, 06:40 PM

Me and my boyfriend officially dated for 2 1/2 years, back in April he cheated on me with another girl he had known for a long time.. him and this girl I think they've kind of been involved on and off since like middle school and we're all in our 3rd yr of college & I have questioned him before about this girl but anyway after he cheated on me he broke up with me after he had sex with her...

Him and the other girl were involved over the whole summer while him and I were broken up, but toward the end of the summer him and I started communicating again and hanging out I kind of made the initial moves but he didn't reject, well she found out and she ended whatever it was they had going on over the summer... she said he told her that him and I were not getting back together so when she found out we were talking and spending time together she said she felt lied to so they ended at the end of the summer (him and the girl)

Throughout this whole semester we've been kicking it, hanging out, spending time together, sex, he has bought me flowers, we say we still love each other etc etc but we are still not back together since our break up in April... now I got to his phone messages and him and that girl had stopped communicating because she found out him and I were back involved but they have been recently talking again like the last few days for the 1st time in a while I think... and he told her he wants to stay in contact and he told her he wants to stay connected to her and she said she would like that... I'm pretty upset... in the conversation she apologized for her reactions to finding out him and I were back involved and he apologized to her and in his words told her "i still don't know where u got that me and my ex (which is me) are back because i'm still single"...

Things have been good with us lately we cook for each other, spend nights together etc but we still aren't back together officially... it's like we're single but in a relationship at the same time what do you think is going on? Because we haven't ever been broken up this long before?

Please don't be too rude and blunt this is my life and I love him very much

Alty · Nov 28, 2012, 06:48 PM

It sounds like he doesn't want a relationship right now, he wants to play the field.

The thing is, you're not in a relationship with him, so he can talk to this girl, he can date this girl, he can even have sex with this girl. Since you aren't his girlfriend anymore, he is free to do what he wants, and it sounds like that's exactly why he hasn't asked you to be his girlfriend again.

Homegirl 50 · Nov 28, 2012, 07:19 PM

Sounds like you are a friend with benefits. He wants to be free to play the field. If this is not satisfactory for you, you need to stop having sex with him and being so available.

mzzjenz1 · Nov 28, 2012, 08:14 PM

Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Sounds like you are a friend with benefits. He wants to be free to play the field. If this is not satisfactory for you, you need to stop having sex with him and being so available.

Thank you for your response

mzzjenz1 · Nov 28, 2012, 08:15 PM

Originally Posted by Alty

It sounds like he doesn't want a relationship right now, he wants to play the field.

The thing is, you're not in a relationship with him, so he can talk to this girl, he can date this girl, he can even have sex with this girl. Since you aren't his girlfriend anymore, he is free to do what he wants, and it sounds like that's exactly why he hasn't asked you to be his girlfriend again.

Thanks for your response!

mzzjenz1 · Nov 28, 2012, 08:17 PM

Originally Posted by Alty

It sounds like he doesn't want a relationship right now, he wants to play the field.

The thing is, you're not in a relationship with him, so he can talk to this girl, he can date this girl, he can even have sex with this girl. Since you aren't his girlfriend anymore, he is free to do what he wants, and it sounds like that's exactly why he hasn't asked you to be his girlfriend again.

And the thing is... he told me I make him happy and that he loves me I don't know maybe he means it in a friendship way.. maybe we'll be together I guess that part of me just wants to keep hope alive

Homegirl 50 · Nov 28, 2012, 08:29 PM

He loves you but won't officially date you. You need to take a look at what is staring you in the face.

Juicy09 · Nov 28, 2012, 09:02 PM

Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

He loves you but won't officially date you. You need to take a look at what is staring you in the face.

So do you think he is just not interested anymore?. there's something I didn't mention I don't know if this has anything to do with it but here goes...

In their messages & this really pissed me off... she went on a rant telling him how she thinks I'm a manipulator & how he may not really be in love with me but what really sucks is that he never corrected her all he said was he thanked her for her words & that sucks but I don't know if he just doesn't want to be with me right now or at all :-/

J_9 · Nov 28, 2012, 09:04 PM

Are you using 2 usernames?

Alty · Nov 28, 2012, 10:20 PM

Originally Posted by J_9

Are you using 2 usernames?

It would seem so, since Juicy posted on this thread and gave more info about MzzJenz's situtation. Looks like Juicy and Mzz are one and the same.

Now I'm off to look at Juicy's other posts to see why she felt she needed to pretend to be someone new.