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    juju9507 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Nov 13, 2012, 07:54 AM
    Relationships with stepchild
    My stepson recently got his acceptance letter to collage. I found out by another parent, at a football game, not by my stepson. I have done everything for him since he was eight. I bought him a car when his mother refused, my husband and I do everything for our kids. When he told his father he was accepted his father told him several times to send me a text to let me know, since I work out of state. Am I wrong in feeling very hurt and disrespected by my stepson for not being informed of his acceptance?
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    Nov 23, 2012, 03:07 PM
    No you are not wrong, your stepchild should have told you the good news
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    Nov 23, 2012, 03:33 PM
    There's no wrong when it comes to hurt, but there is about lack of respect. Although this is disrespectful, it's by omission, and seems to have something deliberate behind it. I would ask your husband if he knows what it might be.

    Perhaps your stepson feels that there have been 'gratitude' strings attached to various purchases, or that you bought him a car as a weapon against his mother. And we don't know what financial arrangements you have with your husband, but saying 'I bought him a car' instead of 'we' is fraught with meaning, whether you and your husband share all expenses or not.

    Just guesses, not analysis! You tell us.
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