[Fearnorhing1992]

Ok so I'm going to start from the start I moved to a new town around 6 mouths ago for a much need fresh start
So I started to meet people into new town and I meet possible to me the most beautiful girl I had ever seen at the pub and I was lucky enough to become her friend this was about a mouth ago now when we meet she was single and we became really close then she started seeing her ex again for around a week he treated her like a animal he would just talk down to her and mentally abuse her so I told her to leave him
By the way the have a 1 year old boy together anyway
I liked this girl from the start but been not the prettiest guy in the world I didn't make a move a week ago I had a few drinks with her and one thing lead to another we sleeped together and she told me she wanted to be with me and that it felt right I kept asking her if she was sure and In the end we got together and it has been great
Till last night she told me she is not sure if she can do this and she has feelings for her ex she needs space and a week to think things over
I really like her and I would like this to work any advice would be great

[maryanne44]

You need to give her time to sort through things. Because they have a child together it must especially hard for her to let go. While she is taking the time to sort things our try to keep yourself busy and focusing on you. Do things you have never tried before or try to go out with friends. Avoiding talking about her or to her unless she has intiated it. It will most likely be a little awkward because you want the answers and you want them now, but you need to let time takes its course. Keep liing your life without waiting around for her and do not be her ragdoll (to string you around). Follow your heart but do not force anything, what is meant to be will always find a way. It will all work out for you some how, good luck!

[Stargard]

Similar situation with me, but the girl is my ex and we're friends again. He is an ex friend of mine and a complete pdsycho, totally toxic relationship, but she loves the drama I think and the attention it gets her. He treat her r badly, was insanely jealous and manipulative. I think she is back with him or will get back with him, as he is still pursuing her.

I don't know why, but a lot of women I know find it hard to pull away from these people.

I would back off, as I have done and leave her to it, you have no control over her feelings at the mo I'm afraid.