[scarlet12]

When I was 25 I met the man of my dreams, my soulmate. We clicked right away. I was single but he was in an unfulfilling relationship and truly thought he was going to leave. Long story short, he didn't leave (he had a very young daughter when we met) and I was not satified with the limited relationship we had. I needed more than he could give at the time.

27 years have past. I willed myself to move on; married a wonderful man who pretty much adores me, had 2 wonderful boys with him, and have gone through the motions of life. In the deep depths of my soul, I wondered what life with my soulmate would have been like.

2 months ago, I received a call from him and my heart melted all over again. It was like time had not passed us by; we caught up being very polite; then as an explotion of emotion came over us, I confessed never forgetting him and our brief time together. He too confessed missing our relationship and me.

He and his wife remain in the unfulfilled relationship he was in before eI came along. I have an adoring husband, but a loveless, unfulfilling marriage. I seems we have both chosen to deny our happiness for the good of the whole.

I love this man to no end and want him totally, which make the mising piece in my marriage seem only bigger and more unfulfilled. I'd like to think he feels the same way about me, but I truly don't know. I don't feel I have the right to pressure him for these answers and I would like to think fate has brought us back into each other lives... I don't want my heart to be broken once again... Please read between the lines and tell me truly whether I'm setting myself up for another fall.

[Fr_Chuck]

It will not be broken if you stop all communication with him, Since you were married, you should not have started talking to him in the first place.

Next there is no such thing as soul mate, he was a person you were sexually and perhaps emotionally drawn

Life with him would not have been perfect, and he choice his other family over you which showed he did not feel the same ( really, since if he had, he would have left then)

You go to counseling and find ways to be with your husband, and realise that the other guy was just a dream from the past.

[ArmstrongMiller]

Since you have married, you should concern more about your family.

[pepper81]

Stay away from this man he is trouble for your life. He loves his wife and family he never left them. He is a cheater who will drop you like a hot potato if you leave your husband. Date your husband, dance go to the movies and dinner. Focus on what is important in your life. Marriage has to be worked on the things you enjoyed while dating still works for you. I was married 23 years until my husband died. We went out on dates and got a baby sitter for the kids. We had times where we needed to refresh and that worked for us. Remember there are lots of women who have never been married you are blessed.