[Bugersalad]

Just about 2 weeks ago I had a mishap in a relationship that went sooooooooo good. I went from a relationship that meant so much to my ex, to a relationship that went from great to bad and over. It happened all because of her Step-Sister.

Just about three weeks ago my ex's step-sister started telling my ex that I was bothering her while she was online talking to friends. The problem is, I never bothered her at all, she would say to my "O boy look who it is" and I would say "blah". Mind you her stepsister is in 8th grade. The next thing I knew my ex was asking me if I bothered her and I told her what goes on. I know this sounds really childish, but it has to do with our breakup. I then wasd told by my ex's older brother that their step-sister hated me, while we were at work. I told him I didn't care and did nothing about it. Until, my ex got all over me about bothering her. I told her I didn't bother her and that she had told her older brother that she hated me. Then I started to get Instant Messages from the step sister saying that the whole family hated me and that I was a lier. That made me so mad that I went off on my ex! I started yelling and telling her that if her family hated me, then I didn't want any part! However, the next day I felt like an for believing the step-sister and tried to talk to my ex. However, it didn't work. That same day I was getting Instant Messages while at work from the step-sister telling me that her father (Step-Father/Mother's Boyfriend), told her to go off on me when I was online because I said that I hated her. However, that wasn't true and I told her to leave me alone because I was at work. The next day I felt like an and some. I lied in bed all day, love sick. I tried to tell her that I was sorry and that I wanted to make it better for the both of us. However, she didn't listen. She wanted nothing to do with me. I told her the next day that I was going to make it better for the both of us, by not freaking out again and telling her that I knew I ed up. For the next week I left her alone, but I called her older brother asking him some advice because I knew that he had become a best friend to me. I called him 2 times and told him that I loved his sister and that I really wanted to see if she would get back. Then I called her and asked if she wanted to talk. However, she didn't answer the text, so I went on. I then got a call from her on Friday of last week asking if I had a good time at her brothers' band's show, where they won The Battle of the Bands. I told her yes, and she said that she wanted to become friends. Not at this time though. This put relief inside me because I knew I still had that small chance. That night I called her and asked her if she wanted me to pick up Guiena Pig items for our Guiena Pigs and she said yes. Saturday I was coming back from my Army Reserves Unit and she told me that she didn't want to talk to me. I asked if we could get back together and she said no. Plus she told me to leave her brothers and her Cousin's Boyfriend alone from relationship questions.

Now I'm at this point where I am trying to figure out if or not she wants a relationship with me again. I had the best year of my life and want more. She was the best to me. I left for the Army knowing this girl and came back from Army Training knowing this girl that loved me. Since then we had been together, she helped me move into my apartment, and with financial trouble and I helped heer many ways too, such as money problems, school, jobs, and more. The question is, will I ever get her back? Will I be able to hold her hand again? She told me that I was missed in her life, but that she is happy now. However, I saw her friend that works at the mall and she told me that my ex was down that she didn't have me, but was telling her that she was happy.


So my question is... Will I get her back? :confused:

[shygrneyzs]

If the relationship is over, like you say, be glad of it. You do not just get involved with one person, you do end up with their family too. As hard it may be to hear, do not contact her and do not receive contact from her. You can point the finger of blame at the much younger step-sister here - but look - this person is in eighth grade - what kind of behavior do you expect from an adolescent? Taking reponsibilities for your own actions and your own words is all you can handle. Leave the rest be and get on with your life, minus the insanity of who-said, she-said, what-said, when-said, and on and on and on.

[talaniman]

First of all bringing others into your personal business is a killer, let alone her family. NOT GOOD. End the confusion by leaving her alone and moving on with your life and finding your own happiness. Doesn't matter who was at fault at all, as things usually fail after the communications had broken down and the chaos started. Move beyond the blame, and get with the things that you enjoy. The fact she believed a hateful 8th grader over you is a dealbreaker to me. Leave them all alone. Keep your business to yourself.