[ariel198919]

I am 23 and my girl is 22, we knew each other since middle school. She got married with another dude, than got separated. We met again and we fall for each other. We moved in and it was the best that's happened in my life so far. I had a drug addiction problem and she didn't know about it until I told her. I fixed my problem, went to therapy and the whole deal. I am totally a different man, more responsible and mature.

I had lost my job in the transition of my recovery. She said she had my back. Now we really going through some financial crisis. And she tells me that we can't be together anymore, that I need to learn more about life, that I need to be responsible. I really don't know what to do I love this girl to death. But at the same time I understand her stress. She's now starting school and also told me she won't be there for me like she would like to be. But it still hurts I love this women.

Now I got a job and what I'm trying to do is help her get out of the hole I got her into. Take her out on dates, and try to reestablish my relationship with her. This girl is just amazing, but is hard for me, because we already lived together, I got used to her, I care for her, I love her. I can't concentrate, I think about here 24/7, and not to say this is gay or something, but I still cry for her. Men do cry.

So please if anybody can give me an advise that can help me open my eyes, I will appreciate it.

[talaniman]

Just curious, is she divorced? Does she have kids?

[ariel198919]

She's not divorced yet, and no she doesn't have kids.

[talaniman]

Kind of messy guy after a failed marriage that she may not be over yet, and your own misfortunes. Hard to trust after all that and maybe she is finally looking after her own interests rather than someone else's.

Getting burned and dissapointed, and hurt does that. Focus on getting YOUR act together, and then see if she considers another shot or NOT!! Not very wise to expect so much, so soon after all this she has been through, and she is still married.