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    Oct 18, 2012, 04:52 AM
    How to convince my boyfriend I'm not with my ex?
    Few weeks ago his friends at my school keep telling him that back with my ex,which is not true.. mean come on!. that's the reason we call past ex's... now he believe and I honestly d'nt know what to do.. I really love him cause he's my longest relationship.Yes we would talk but is only brief stuff,he don't even want me to ask him any questions
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    Oct 18, 2012, 05:07 AM
    'Come on?' People shmooze with exes all the time, and sometimes just can't resist trying for a bit of the old fun, after they forget what was awful about it.

    But if you really and truly are innocent, tell your boyfriend wistfully that it's too bad that he listens to rumors instead of you.
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    Oct 18, 2012, 05:10 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by joypulv View Post
    'Come on?' People shmooze with exes all the time, and sometimes just can't resist trying for a bit of the old fun, after they forget what was awful about it.

    But if you really and truly are innocent, tell your boyfriend wistfully that it's too bad that he listens to rumors instead of you.
    Hey I tried telling him it wasn't true... he didn't believe me at all... but I do talk to my ex.. but is general convos... I have no feelings for him at all.
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    Oct 18, 2012, 05:18 AM
    I went through this and I think a lot of people do.
    It isn't easy for him to realize that you don't have 'feelings' a la sexual feelings anymore, just a sort of general getting along. I guess if you really care about your boyfriend, you will promise for his sake to back off, even though it really has been all innocent.
    If he still won't accept that, then he is too suspicious and rigid and you need to decide how much you want him.
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    Oct 18, 2012, 05:24 AM
    Well I am 'backing off' I stop talking to my ex... I just don't see why people can tell him,we have something going.. because I don't show it at all.. and friends usually be there where my ex and I are talking...
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    Oct 18, 2012, 05:27 AM
    He sounds very insecure. Usually a good reason for this.
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    Oct 18, 2012, 05:34 AM
    but I still don't know what to do x_X
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    Oct 18, 2012, 06:02 AM
    People gossip and stir up trouble because they like seeing it work - power, teasing, torturing, bragging about it. Juvenile. Usually it gets better as you get older.

    You've done all you can do. Tell him you are hurt that he would rather believe lying childish guys than you. Put some of the onus on him.
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    Oct 18, 2012, 06:49 AM
    *joypuly* armmm... he don't want to talk about the topic even up to this morning I tried! He got really mad.. soo I guess there's nothing left to do since he don't want to come by me nor don't want to talk... This attitude will just fade away the love! And I don't want that.. as I said before I really love him but he is pushing me away just because of some stupid LIE!
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    Oct 18, 2012, 08:51 AM
    Then he doesn't trust you so he doesn't deserve you.
    You can't make people do anything. You presented your case, and now you might as well at least get the pleasure of ditching him first.
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