[Schofimel]

I'm 17, I was with a boy for 3 years that was also 17.. But I went on holiday and met someone that is 23, I fell for him after he told me he loved me a night before I went back home. I decided to leave my 17 year old boyfriend and move and be with this 23 year old, but just 2 days before I moved he called me up and told me that he got a 34 year old woman pregnant and that she was due to have the baby in 2 months, I moved anyway and was with him.. But now she's having the baby as we speak and I left him a couple days ago because I couldn't cope with stress, he already has a 4 year old girl! So I realised that I still love my 17 year old ex boyfriend and I decided to be with him but how do I go back and pretend nothing's happened? I just feel like I've got myself into this big mess and I don't know how to get out? Help me please? :/

[Curlyben]

Walk away and NEVER look back.
This whole situation is NONE of your concern and you should not dwell on it.

[dontknownuthin]

At 17 you should be primarily focused on yourself and becoming an independent person. When you are educated and have a career path and plan for your own future, then you can make better decisions about partners. If you don't have an education and careeer path, your relationships will be determined by things like what you can afford financially.

A 23 year old guy who is interested in a 17 year old has issues because, while it's only a 6 year difference, at these ages it might as well be 50 because you are, or at least should be, in very different stages of life. At 17 you should be in high school (are you?) and he, at 23, should be well into a trade careeer, or a few years out of college and beginning his professional career.

My concern is that you appear to think you need a boyfriend. Don't be with EITHER guy for now. Learn to like being on your own and figure out what YOU want that does not include men. When you have that sorted out, slowly start dating but be really particular - don't just take whomever is cute and willing. Limit your prospects to guys who have a solid future, have no criminal past, don't do drugs, treat you well, respect your parents and family, fit in well with your friends and all those important things, not just someone who pays attention to you or is willing to give you a place to crash. Believe me, if you take it slow and take care of yourself first now, your whole life will be better in the long run from your finances, the type of home you can live in, the stability of your life, the future you can provide for your children and more. Take care!

[Fr_Chuck]

You can not act like nothing has happened, you need to be responsible and learned from what happened.