[loborena12]

My 30 year old daughter moved back home from living with her boyfriend to save money. On mothers day at our yearly dinner her 84 year old grandmother asked is she coming and I said yes she wouldn't not come to mothers day dinner. I finally called after it was over and was told by her that she was at the boyfriends and they were rolling cigarettes and couldn't leave. It made me furious especially because she was a smartass to me about 70% of the time. Her Dad and I were constantly giving her money for gas, lunch, and anything else she needed. We were trying to help her save money and offered her our "mother-in-law" apartment free. When she finally came home 2 days later I grabbed her hand as she brushed by and told her to sit her butt down and tell me what is wrong to make her be so hateful to me lately. She flew mad like I had struck her! I have never even given her a spanking when she was growing up. We end up in an argument and she said I had told her I was through with her and that was why she was mad but I actually told her I was through giving her money. I had founf out they were out eating at a very nice restaurant with money we gave her for gas. She turns and with hate all over her face and calls me a ing liar not once but 3 times!! I calmly told her I wanted her out and she calls her boyfriend and takes her cats and clothes and moves in with him at his parents. I was so upset the next day I sent her several text asking her to lets try and work this out one reason I had had a bypass just 2 months before and had complications and was in a coma and almost died. I did not want to fight with her as I have lived my life for this child. She was my one and only. I had to have a hysterectomy right after having her. She doesn't respond to me at all and then blocks me from her phone. That was 5 months ago. Did I do the right thing by telling her to move? She has a problem with cursing and I mean filthy cursing. What should I do ?

[Alty]

She's an adult, but she wasn't behaving like one. It was nice of you to let her stay with you, rent free, and give her money for her needs, but, I suspect that you've been doing this her whole life because she's your one and only. You created a monster, and the monster doesn't appreciate any of the things you do for her, she expects them.

It's time for her to learn that at 30, she's responsible for taking care of herself. You don't owe her anything, least of all an apology for allowing her to live with you and giving her money so she could go out and have fun.

She's a brat.