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    my7uga Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Oct 5, 2012, 02:13 PM
    How do I stay satisfied in a sexless marriage.
    Haven't had sex in nearly 10 years. Husband is a wonderful man but has no desire anymore. Tried everything. Met another man with same issue. Really want him, but don't know how not to get serious with him especially since I know he doesn't want to get serious. Haven't slept with him yet. Can get sex from him I know, but what about the intimacy? I'm missing more than the sex.
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    Oct 5, 2012, 02:14 PM
    So why stay in the marriage? Not sure but it sounds like you're almost ready to cheat on him? There has got to be someone out there who would be begging for it.
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    Oct 5, 2012, 03:35 PM
    10 years without sex? Have you had marriage counselling? I don't know if you mean he has erectile dysfunction, but if he did I'd assume he could still give you oral and such. It sounds more like your marriage ended a long time ago and you're living as friends. You don't need to cheat, you can deal with it head on and break up with him, and then you'll be free to have experiences that aren't serious. I'm sure your husband will understand. I'm sad for you. Go, be happy!
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    Oct 5, 2012, 08:15 PM
    Haven't you talked about it in 10 years? What's his problem? Doesn't sound like a very nice guy to me, or that you communicate very well. No kids?
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    Oct 5, 2012, 08:18 PM
    Why, was he in a accident and can not physcially ? Does he have emotional issues ?

    Have you talked to husband about it ?

    Why exactly can he not, or is it he just does not want to?
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    Oct 6, 2012, 07:15 AM
    If you are considering going outside your marriage it is always a mistake to complicate one relationship with another.

    If the marriage is dead, then leave and find your happiness.
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    Oct 6, 2012, 07:38 AM
    Yeah, I mean it's not like you went out, got tipsy and slept with someone in the moment. You're asking if you should cheat in the future. You have the time and capacity to deal with this, causing as little heartache and damage in your life as possible. You want sex, you want passion. After 10 years, it's not going to happen with your husband, so as great as he is and as much as you care about him, you should go and be single and give yourself the chance to experience those things again with other people.
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