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    Preciouspearls Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Oct 3, 2012, 12:41 AM
    Could my husband have planned to leave me for his now recent girlfriend?
    My husband left me after only 6 months of marriage two months ago back to his home state in Florida and has a new girlfriend already. His reasons for leaving me started about 3 weeks before he left and claimed that he was not happy with me anymore because I had given my number to an ex boyfriend who I remained friends with when we broke up 4 years ago. My ex texted me a few times through out our marriage to see how I was doing and it was never anything romantic and I told my husband that.

    However since I lied about how many times my friend contacted me to avoid conflict and jealousy he rightfully started to not trust me and it got to the point of many fights and him looking through my phone bill for any reason to catch me in another lie and leave. Well he left anyway after I tried to prove that I was no longer in communication with my friend to only find out last week that he had been texting all day and late into the night an old female friend from Florida the last month before he left and they are now together.

    Was he really just that unhappy that he looked for any excuse to leave and was emotionally cheating on me texting this woman? I'm so confused.
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    Oct 3, 2012, 12:58 AM
    You will never know the truth, and should not care, you only care if you are trying to justify or you have not accepted it is over.

    It is over, accept it, stop caring why and move on.

    My guess, there were many other factors and you two were not ready to get married, and were not communicating well.

    You keep in contact with a ex, sounds like he was over jealous, then you lied, which only made it worst. Most likely that was it, along with other issues.

    But stop trying to figure out why, and just move on after it.
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    Oct 3, 2012, 06:59 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Preciouspearls View Post
    My husband left me after only 6 months of marriage two months ago back to his home state in Florida and has a new girlfriend already. His reasons for leaving me started about 3 weeks before he left and claimed that he was not happy with me anymore because I had given my number to an ex boyfriend who I remained friends with when we broke up 4 years ago. My ex texted me a few times through out our marriage to see how I was doing and it was never anything romantic and I told my husband that. However since I lied about how many times my friend contacted me to avoid conflict and jealousy he rightfully started to not trust me and it got to the point of many fights and him looking through my phone bill for any reason to catch me in another lie and leave. Well he left anyways after I tried to prove that I was no longer in communication with my friend to only find out last week that he had been texting all day and late into the night an old female friend from Florida the last month before he left and they are now together. Was he really just that unhappy that he looked for any excuse to leave and was emotionally cheating on me texting this woman? I'm so confused.

    I agree with Frchuck - questioning and basically torturing yourself proves nothing.

    Move on.
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    Oct 6, 2012, 10:34 AM
    Hell you both were probably lying to each other and staying in touch behind each others back at the same time. That should't be confusing, nor should his leaving be confusing. Take this as a blessing and do better.

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