[peanut-21]

Me n my boyfriend have been together for 3 yrs.
We started really good. He won't have sex with me and he starts fights all the time. I'm seriously confused and don't know where everything went wrong.
I need help figuring out how to get things back to how things were.
I feel our relationship us coming to an end!

[teacherjenn4]

Have you talked to him about it? How old are you both?

[Cat1864]

I am going to say something that you probably won't like, but please think about it.

You need to stop wanting your relationship to be like it was in the past. The past is gone. What you need to focus on is the present and working on communications. I don't know what the future holds. But I do know that as long as you aren't communicating and working as a couple, there isn't a future.

Can you give us more background information? Do you live together? Is he stressed out about work, family, friends, finances, etc. How is his health? Is he on any medications? How much time do you spend together? Do you both have friends and interests outside of the relationship so that you have time for yourselves?

When sex became less frequent, how did you handle talking to him about it? Did he try to answer your questions? Did you accept his answers or try to press for more acceptable (to you) ones? Did he get argumentative from the beginning of the problems or has it become a defense mechanism?

Have you tried giving him time and space to work through anything that might be bothering him?