[carolinnagurll]

Hi... me and my fiancé have been together 3 years and are supposed to be getting married next month however there are some things that make me not want to... he has a child who is 11 years old he pays child support buys her school clothes shoes and clothes through out the year also he gets her hair done buys her cell phones and pays the bill pays for her field trips skating and whatever else she wants or needs and I think that's great because most fathers don't... now my problem is the baby mama lives with her mate and she calls him everyday about anything and everything when she wants ciggs she calls him when she wants a beer she will call him she calls wanting money all the time she even called 1 day saying she wanted a dr pepper and black in mild she calls to tell him her problems with her live in friend anything now the thing is he takes care of his daughter 100% is he supposed to give the baby mama money too..

[Wondergirl]

That child and that child's mother will be part of your entire marriage with him--and it sounds like part of your marriage 24/7. Is that okay with you?

[LadySam]

You only said she calls for these things, does he comply?

[WindChill]

This woman will be a part of your life whether you want her to or not but at the same time I don't think he has to provide for her at all. His responsibility is to his child. He supports his daughter as any good father would do, but the baby mama is a no no. She'll take advantage of your good nature and depend upon him completely and that's not right. If she wants cigarettes and beer and whatever else she needs to get a job and buy those things out of her own hard earned money not your fiancee's. Talk to your man about how your feeling, let him know that she is not his problem anymore and he shouldn't feel guilty for not giving into her every demand. He needs to continue being a good father and leave this woman in the past and if she creates problems for you both I suggest he try to take custody of his daughter away from her.